Yes, men do like stupid girls sometimes. Yes, smart girls sometimes play fools to please young people. Yes, it is so widespread that it has already become part of the female culture, and cute girls grow up without seeing much need to learn to think and, in principle, behave like an adult. What for? They are so admired!
However, now you are already married, you already have two children, and your husband suddenly begins to look at you differently: “Listen, are you smart? Why are you acting like a fool girl? Don’t you know how to be an adult and smart? And you understand that the game is a game, and you really somehow don’t know how to act like an adult. Well, if you haven’t studied, then how will you be able to?
The situation is not easy, but the most intelligent women make a difficult but worthy decision: to learn to think and start behaving like an adult … Let’s help them? At least, where to start?
Here I am pleased to publish a letter written to her husband by a smart young woman, mother of two children.
“Darling, I understand that you do not like my childish behavior. I don’t like it either. But we will definitely solve this problem together. I set myself such a task. Here’s how to act — the question is more complicated. I would put you in charge of this matter, and I myself would be the executor. I am ready to do whatever you tell me. Your task is to solve the problem, to speak, and my task is to listen to you. And then, if I obey you, I will gradually become not a little girl, but a wise beautiful woman. This is the first suggestion.
Second suggestion. I think making noise at me is not useful. Because from this I will not learn to be smart right away. But if instead of noise you give me some tasks that are understandable to me, useful to me, then I will quickly learn to be a smart girl, and I will be grateful to you for that. If you show patience, but teach me, give tasks, it will be efficient and great.
Third point. Dear, when you see that I have childish behavior, then give me a sign, a sign that I understand, maybe with a finger, and remember how I behave in order to mirror. But mirroring is not to mimic, but to show it to me if I don’t notice it. And then, if you showed me, my duty will be to stop childish behavior and think about what I could replace it with, so that there is an adult. If I don’t come up with it myself, you will tell me how I should have behaved, what kind of more adult behavior you would like to see from me.
NATAKA MKE