If you think that Russian grandmothers are especially active and irrepressible, then you are deeply mistaken. The older generation of the whole world is on their own mind. And the relationship between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law is a byword in any country and on any continent.
Don’t believe me? In vain. A young American woman anonymously shared this story with Reddit users. And we can only sympathize with her sincerely and with understanding.
“My husband is 22 years old, I am 20 years old. 4,5 months ago we became the parents of a charming baby. She is adorable, she is the perfect child in everything, except for one thing: she is … not a boy.
You will now say that it does not matter. I agree with you, absolutely nothing for me. But for relatives on the part of her husband, as it turned out, this is very important. Even before we knew the sex of our unborn child, the mother-in-law buzzed all my ears, how important it is for a boy to be born.
“If you don’t have a son, our family will end there,” she exclaimed pathetically. – When your daughter grows up and gets married, she will take her husband’s surname and continue his pedigree.
I’ll clarify: my husband has no brothers, only a sister. Therefore, his mother-in-law has the only hope in this sense.
But back to history. When my father-in-law visited me in the hospital after the birth of my daughter, do you know what they immediately asked me about?
– Well, when are you going to pick up the next baby? – Yes, yes, the question was asked absolutely seriously.
I tried to translate everything into a joke, but my mother-in-law did not calm down: urgently it’s time for the boy!
Then this topic was practically not raised aloud. There were some insignificant comments, but I didn’t even pay attention to them: they were chatting, and let them. I was very grateful to my mother-in-law: she came to visit every day to nurse my granddaughter, give me the opportunity to put things in order, cook dinner, and sometimes – if the night was hard – and sleep. Yes, yes, she herself sent me to lie down and rest! On average, she spent at least 2-3 hours in our apartment.
And a week ago in the evening my husband made me a cocktail. I did not even have time to take a sip, as my body rebelled and gave back all the contents of the stomach. God, what a familiar feeling …
I just started to panic, and I urgently decided to do a pregnancy test. Two stripes !!! I was completely at a loss. I don’t know how I endured it until the morning, I bought a digital test at the pharmacy. Positive result again. And the term – I could not believe my eyes – is already 6 weeks.
To say that we were in shock is to say nothing. Yes, I could not use hormonal contraceptives for a number of reasons. But we protected ourselves with condoms and contraceptive gels. Therefore, although we were happy, we were at a loss, did not understand – how ?!
They decided to keep the news a secret from their parents for now. The only one with whom I wanted to share was my husband’s sister – we are very close.
When my sister-in-law found out about my pregnancy, she burst into tears. I certainly did not expect such a reaction: I tried to calm her down, said that my husband and I, although young, we earn good money, we can afford to give birth to a second baby … But she did not calm down.
“I’m sorry, I’m sorry, please,” she repeated through her tears.
For what to excuse? I didn’t understand anything.
And my husband’s sister, having calmed down a little, stunned me already: practically from the very day the baby and I were discharged from the hospital, the mother-in-law… pierced our condoms!
She herself shared this plan with her daughter, but she did not even pay attention to her words, decided that her mother was simply angry that she did not have a grandson.
But now everything fell into place for me! That is why my mother-in-law so persistently sent me to sleep. This is what she did when she was alone in our apartment.
You have no idea how angry I am. I am angry with my husband’s sister for not warning me. Even if it was a joke – I should have known about it! I practically hate my mother-in-law for what she did. Yes, I am glad of this pregnancy: but it was not my choice! It was not even an accident! This was her deliberate intervention in our family planning. And all because she did not get a male grandson.
I am very sorry that my pregnancy is overshadowed by this situation. But I am determined to bring my mother-in-law to clean water. She still doesn’t know that I’m in a position. But at the same time he knows where our condoms are and is not aware that we have installed a hidden camera in this room …
The only positive thing in this whole story: the husband opened his eyes about his mother. He is on my side and is ready to accept any of my decisions. Even change your last name, because of which this whole situation happened … “