«I’m afraid of my parents’ quarrels»

Nina, from your letter, I realized that quarrels scare you. But why do you think your parents will divorce? Did they tell you about it? Or maybe one of your friends mom and dad broke up, and you decided that sooner or later it happens to everyone?

Of course, it happens that love between adults ends, but this is not necessary — not all parents get divorced. When people quarrel, it does not mean that forever. Probably, and you sometimes quarrel with friends at school, and then you continue to communicate. Because the relationships that you already have are much more important than temporary disagreements. And of course, you need to quarrel in such a way as not to destroy your relationship. That’s exactly what you’re afraid of.

But I’ll tell you what, you can’t predict if your parents will divorce. And you can’t answer for them: no matter how their relationship develops, this is not your fault. You must neither reconcile them nor take sides. These are your two closest people, and they will always take care of you.

In the meantime, you can think about other, more interesting things: about a new girlfriend, about how you will spend your holidays, or what your adult life will be like. And you will be much calmer.

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