Describing a real case, one of the students of the University of Practical Psychology came up with a request:
My daughter’s sports are going well, and my son’s is bad: objectively bad sports data. As a result, the son, after going to the next section for some time, gives out “I don’t want, I can’t.” They tried different sports, even they took Masha Davydova to a sword fight.
When I show toughness, then the son — he is very obedient — goes, but is serving a room (where you can freebie — freebies). That’s not the point. My daughter says she is ashamed of him in class.
Still, when the son understands that you can’t get me with a compassionate “I don’t want”, he begins to turn on “my stomach hurts, my head hurts.” I, trying to work with the format, tell him: “Say in a cheerful voice!”, And he cheerfully says “My stomach hurts!” and looks at me cheerfully.
How to treat it? This can really be true, it can be a notion, plus a talented child can inflict any pain on himself.
Actually the questions are: 1) does it make sense to work with the format in case of “diseases” and how to respond to them in general? 2) how to react if the child obeys me, but hacks in the classroom? I won’t work with the format here myself, and the coach has no time to do this…
Decision:
- In the morning, morning exercises, the whole family do with pleasure.
- If the stomach hurts, the patient goes into hospital mode: in bed and no entertainment. If he gets up, then only to be treated or do homework.
- In the section, agree with the coach that the son comes up to him at the end of the training and asks him for a mark for his APPLICATION. Not for SUCCESS, but for DIFFERENCE. And these marks for the son should be as high as his high marks for studying at school.
What is your experience, dear readers? What will you add?
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