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As a rule, we are well aware of how various harmful attitudes from childhood negatively affect our lives, making it difficult to build strong relationships, earn a lot of money or trust others. However, we do not realize that they seriously affect our health, leading to a heart attack. What are these settings and how to get rid of them?
Dangerous Beliefs
Cardiologist, psychologist, candidate of medical sciences Anna Korenevich listed three attitudes from childhood that can cause heart problems, reports . All of them are associated with ignoring one’s own needs:
«Public interests take precedence over private interests.»
«I am the last letter in the alphabet.»
«Loving yourself means being selfish.»
Patient History
A 62-year-old man, husband and father of a large family, is a high-ranking and important employee. He works almost seven days a week, often stays at the office and travels on business trips. In his free time, a man solves the problems of close and distant relatives: his wife and three adult children, mother, mother-in-law and the family of his younger brother.
However, he doesn’t have much time for himself. He sleeps four hours a day, and there is no time left for rest — both active (fishing and sports) and passive.
As a result, the man ended up in intensive care with a heart attack and miraculously survived.
While he was in a medical facility, all his thoughts hovered around work and the needs of loved ones. “Not a single thought about myself, only about others, because the mindset firmly sits in my head:“ I am the last letter of the alphabet, ”the doctor emphasizes.
As soon as the patient felt better, he returned to his previous regimen. The man regularly took the necessary pills, went to the doctors, but two years later he was covered by a second heart attack — already fatal.
Causes of a heart attack: medicine and psychology
From a medical point of view, the second heart attack is caused by a combination of factors: cholesterol, pressure, age, heredity. From a psychological point of view, health problems have developed as a result of the chronic burden of responsibility for other people and the constant neglect of their own basic needs: in personal space, free time, peace of mind, peace, acceptance and love for oneself.
How to love yourself?
The sacred commandments say: «Love your neighbor as yourself.» What does it mean? According to Anna Korenovich, first you need to love yourself, and then your neighbor — just like yourself.
First set your boundaries, attend to your needs, and only then do something for others.
“Loving yourself is not as easy as it seems. This is hindered by our upbringing and attitudes, which are passed down from generation to generation. You can change these attitudes and find a healthy balance between self-love and the interests of others with the help of modern methods of psychotherapy under the general name of processing. This is a study of oneself, an effective technique for working with the subconscious, one’s own mind, spirit and body, which helps to harmonize relationships with oneself, the world around and other people, ”concludes the doctor.
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