Author — A.P. Egides. The book «How to understand people, or the Psychological drawing of personality»
An hysteroid with an hysteroid quickly converge and disperse just as quickly, one has only to tell each other everything about themselves and lure out additional secrets of charm. Their conversations are superficial: about rags, about the life of artists — “salon chatter”. (This is all on average, about 66:33.)
But a hysteroid with an epileptoid … An epileptoid is fundamental, like an oak, you can lean against it, you can hide in its crown, “snuggle with thin branches”, well, as in the song, and even eat from its roots. Very comfortably.
The hysteroid develops manipulative abilities in itself, which allow it to lure rather than mine. An epileptoid earner, however, may even like it to some extent if he owns completely, say, a beautiful hysteroid. Well, if she is not too good or not too faithful, then this is already unpleasant for him, and then conflicts and suffering are inevitable — for an epileptoid, they are restrainedly dramatic, and for a hysteroid — violently tragicomic.
Hysteroids often join the paranoid ones. Even sometimes without success. The paranoid still knows the art of persuasion. In the opinion of the majority, said Anatole France, to repeat is to prove. The paranoid one is just characterized by the phrases: “I tell you again”, “I repeat”. And for the hysteroid, conviction is proof. He is not very critical, he believes and even believes. And I “believe” him sincerely at that moment. He looks at the paranoid prophet with admiration, even with sexual lust, he is ready to surrender to him, surrender (and then betray, moving on to another prophet). The hysteroid easily assimilates his phraseology, quotes, relishes the expressions, not reshaping them too much, not developing them, but with eyes burning like those of the prophet himself, he becomes like the prophet himself at these moments, identifies himself with him and receives part of the glory that the prophet provides for himself. The hysteroid receives the attention it needs in the radiance of the halo of the prophet he has chosen at the moment. Here we use the word «prophet» in a nominal sense: a prophet is a prophet everywhere — in religion, and in science, and in art, and in politics. And everywhere there are hysteroids, changing, depending on the circumstances, the manner of speaking, the content of speeches, dressed in white clothes or tailcoats, and even undressed, if necessary.
It is difficult for hysteroids to get along with schizoids, they have no common interests, we almost never see them together. And when they are apart, the hysteroid laughs at the schizoid for his disregard for fashion, and the schizoid with the hysteroid simply has nothing to talk about.
We have already noticed that people of any psychotype compete with each other, even psychasthenoids and sensitives. But others are drowned more by paranoid and hysteroids. But if the paranoid one can even kill an opponent, then the hysteroids are an order of magnitude less serious. The hysteroid is satisfied with the fact that he will manipulatively humiliate his rival.
In Somerset Maugham’s novel The Theatre, Julia on the stage forced a young actress to turn so that the face of the «scoundrel» in the light of the footlight became like a muzzle of a sheep, and ensured her failure, and herself — once again — applause.
Or a hysteroid, approaching another hysteroid and, looking into the eyes and “sincerely” condoling, says: “God, how did you let yourself go, you can’t treat yourself like that, go for a week at least to the Canaries, if there’s not enough for Foros” . I just want to go not to the Canary Islands, but to follow a vile predatory face, but no, it’s to sink to its level, but you have to “lower” it in response. And then: “No, dear, you know, both the Canary Islands and Foros — there are only new Russians with thick necks, and decent people still gather in Baden-Baden, we were invited there by the Swiss … »
And one hysterical “mother”, competing with her own hysterical daughter, in the presence of men, issued: “You need to eat more, otherwise only jeans and bones are left of you.”
She heard it somewhere before and quoted it.
How to deal with a hysteroid
We will give advice to people associated with hysteroids at work or in the family to accept them (or, as psychologists like to say, accept them) as they are, with their pluses and minuses, and in contrast to remember that the minuses of other psychotypes (unbridled shamelessness of hyperthymia, hypocrisy of the epileptoid, global disregard for the paranoid people), maybe even worse. “Disadvantages as a continuation of merits” and even “virtues as a continuation of shortcomings” — these two theses can also become a psycho-corrective beginning for people surrounding a hysteroid. The hysteroid, like people of other psychotypes, should not be uncomfortable with your behavior. Communicating with him, it is advisable to follow the rules of psychotechnical safety. Remove or at least soften conflictogens, give synthons (positive messages). Give up negative assessments of his personality and relics, from accusations and categoricalness, from teachings, admonitions, advice, and, conversely, take an interest in his personality, his achievements, focus on him the much-needed attention of those around him. And yet, if the hysteroid is clearly pinching, stepping on the throat of others, you need to use soft or hard confrontation and controlled conflict. More about all this is in my «Labyrinths of Communication» («AST-PRESS», 2002). When stimulating some actions of an hysteroid, it makes sense to appeal to his nobility and to the assessment of his behavior by people, for example: «It will look good.»