A situation familiar to many: the husband comes home after work and plays computer games until late. Weekends are the same. I ran into a problem that, of course, you can ban it. But you don’t need to fight AGAINST, you need to fight FOR! And then the problem becomes even more interesting: what to offer instead of games? In addition, I really understand a man: I also sometimes want to surf the Internet and relax, flipping through the pages in contact. But I, like any woman, have a lot of things to do at home, and men often have nothing to do at home.
I sat down and wrote this letter to my husband.
Native, good, I love you! You are caring, you are gentle, you are hardworking, thanks to you I can be at home with the children. And our son loves you very much. Thank you my love!
But I want to complain very seriously about you: I’m talking about computer games.
You get tired, I see it, I know it, and I understand you perfectly: you want to be alone, you want to switch off. I will not deny that your games are worthy, I myself want to get into your game when I pass by you. It’s like that. But it’s still not the point.
First, it’s not a vacation. Sitting and looking at the screen does not make you more cheerful, you come out from under the computer nothing, your eyes are glassy, and you almost don’t react to me anymore. It’s embarrassing, right? And I need you a cheerful man, and for many more years. If I give you to computer games, I will lose you. Will not give it back!
Second, we have children. Specifically for Vovka, you are an authority, he draws from you what a man should be like. If he sketches that a man at home should not see anyone, sit with his back to everyone, hunched over, get angry at everyone and drive him away from his computer — listen, did we have to give birth to him then? We want to teach him that you need to rest like this? That children should be loved with their backs to them?
Look, the kids need you. Mashunya wants to play with you and show you how she draws, the children want to talk to you, and Vovka needs help with your homework — we don’t need a dunce son and an idler, do we? And if Vovka, like you, becomes addicted to computer games (and he simply becomes addicted with your help), do we need it?
In short, it’s time to tie.
I propose: to arrange a family council on this topic, consisting of you and me. Agenda: how to save our husband. My suggestions: 1) No games for children. It’s so simple: you yourself will tell Vovka that this is not the case for a man, and with him you will erase all the games from the computer. 2) After dinner, you work with the children. An hour or half an hour, lessons or sports, whatever you want — but the children need you. 3) I know that you have a lot to do on your computer even without games. So you make love to the computer when I put the kids to bed, and when I put the kids to bed, you make love to me. Well, or we go for a walk at least for half an hour. How do you like this offer?
And I solemnly promise you that with your arrival, I also do not sit at the computer and will behave like a loving and decent wife. I will be kind and obedient.
Here. My wisest and most beloved husband in the world, I came up with this, your imperfect wife. You, of course, will come up with everything much better and tell me how it is right, and for this we need to talk. When are you and I having a family council?