The first letter is written softly: this is how one should write, while the situation has not yet gone far and there is hope that everything can be fixed in a good way. The second letter is written more harshly: when there is nothing left to lose, only such tough letters (and the same decisive actions) can improve the situation.
My dear and beloved husband!
I am infinitely grateful to fate for the fact that you are in my life, for the fact that we have a wonderful daughter growing up. I love you, my dear and I want to be only with you.
I understand that you work hard in order to make our life prosperous, so that we do not need anything. I appreciate your concern, thanks to you I feel confident in the future. Thank you for this!
You have been working hard lately. I am very worried about you. You’ve only had one day off in the last two months! Every day you leave home at seven, and arrive after ten in the evening. My dear, it hurts me to see how you ruin yourself at work. In the evening, you have enough strength to talk a little, eat and go to bed. You do not get enough sleep, in the morning you hardly get up for work, you drink a lot of coffee — all this negatively affects your health. I don’t want prosperity at the cost of your health! I do not want to lose you!
It can’t go on like this anymore. I know that for the sake of me and my daughter you are ready for anything. You feel obligated to provide for us. Dear, I assure you, even if you earn 2 times less, we will have enough for everything. And these are not empty words, this is also evidenced by the financial accounting that I have been keeping for several months now. We manage our finances very well. You need complete rest. You are an experienced leader, organize yourself a day off at least once a week. I want you to come home no later than 21.00 and turn off the phone so that you are not disturbed by business that can wait until morning. Do it for yourself, and I guarantee you the quality of rest. You can count on my care, love and support. I also promise that I will continue to keep records and optimize family money.
Let’s agree that this week you will have a day off. You will sleep, you will rest. I’ll cook a festive dinner. We’ll spend the time the way you want. And from next week you will come home by 21.00 and warn your employees that all issues will be resolved only during working hours.
I’m sure it will benefit our entire family. You will rest, and we will enjoy communication with you. Dear, I’m waiting for your decision.
My dear husband!
I want you to know that I love you very much and I want to be with you for the rest of my days. I decided to write you a letter, so it’s easier for me to say about important things without emotions and claims.
I know that you are a real man. You take care of me and my daughter, you want us not to need anything. I appreciate your concern, thanks to you I feel confident in the future. I understand that you have to spend a lot of time at work for this.
But I can’t have you ruining your health at work. You’ve only had one day off in the last two months! Every day you leave home at seven, and arrive after ten in the evening. How long do you think you can last in such a crazy rhythm? Already now you have enough strength to talk a little, eat and go to bed. My daughter and I hardly see you. It distances us. Why do we need well-being at the cost of your health and our relationship? It can’t go on like this anymore! I am categorically against such fanatical earning of money. I assure you, even if you earn 2 times less, we will have enough for everything. And these are not empty words, this is also evidenced by the financial accounting that I have been keeping for several months now.
I urge you to review your work schedule. I’m against! I won’t take any more of your money, we don’t need that kind of money!
We need you. You can’t build happiness on money alone. A strong family is not only wealth, but also good relationships. And for this we need to communicate, spend time together.
You are an experienced leader, you have a lot of employees in your subordination. You must lead the process, and not work instead of your subordinates. Organize your working time in such a way that you are already at home no later than 21.00, and also that you have a weekly day off. Perhaps for better results, you should attend trainings on management and leadership, on delegation of authority.
For my part, I promise you even more care, love and support. I will listen to your tips on what to add to improve our relationship. I will also continue to keep records and optimize family money. I can also help you create a time management plan.
Dear, I know you are a wise man. You will carefully read my proposals and make a decision. I am ready to discuss this issue with you. After all, we are striving for one thing — for peace and happiness in our family. I’m waiting for your decision.
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