With a humanistic approach, the psychotherapist requires unconditional acceptance of the client, expressed, in particular, in empathic listening and emotional support. No pressure, no prescriptions, just warmth and understanding. If we use the idea, widespread in modern psychology, about the difference between models of paternal and maternal love, then it is obvious that in this case we have rather a model of maternal love.
«I love you any!» — says the mother, and the child understands that he is loved. “You will be my son if…” the father demands, and the child understands that one is not born a son, one becomes a son…
Without a motherly, unconditionally accepting attitude, a child grows up cold and tough, without a fatherly demanding attitude, a child is poorly able to strain himself and overcome difficulties, does not know what discipline is and does not know how to achieve a goal. See Father’s Model of Love
Naturally, the harmonious upbringing of a child presupposes the complementarity of these two approaches. But what has already been realized in the upbringing of children, in the practice of working with adults, has remained a painful problem. It can be argued that, at least in psychology, the situation in which Carl Rogers pioneered his approach has turned upside down: now the humanistic approach dictates its own norms as the only correct ones, and everything that does not directly correspond to it is rejected.
As a result, Frank Farelli’s provocative psychotherapy makes its way with great difficulty, and the vigorous and demanding Syntone program is met with suspicion.
It seems that the time of confrontation between these two poles has passed, the time has come to synthesize the best of these two approaches, if you want to create a harmonious union of male and female principles in psychology. See Masculine and feminine