Contents
- 1. When a group of people laughs, everyone involuntarily tries to catch the eye of the person who is closest to him
- 2. Those who do us a favor start liking us.
- 3. Silence eloquent
- 4. Open palms create trust
- 5. When we nod our heads in conversation, our opinions are shared more readily.
- 6. Interrupted activities are remembered better
- 7. Chewing gum helps you relax and focus
- 8. Feet show interest
- 9. When you meet someone, call them by their first name several times.
- 10. Sincere joy causes sympathy
Many people think that it is easy to get along with people and maintain friendly relations with everyone — some kind of innate skill that cannot be mastered. However, emotional intelligence expert Travis Bradbury is sure that this does not require superpowers at all — just ordinary observation and some knowledge of the amazing properties of the human brain are enough.
For those who work hard on themselves and do everything possible to achieve their goals, tips will definitely come in handy to help them achieve success faster. Knowing about mind games will not make you a Jedi, but by using the natural abilities of the brain, you can create a favorable impression of yourself with those you meet along the way.
Our mind does amazing tricks. Take a closer look and you will start to notice them at every turn. They control behavior on a subconscious level and significantly affect life.
1. When a group of people laughs, everyone involuntarily tries to catch the eye of the person who is closest to him
By observing people, you can accurately determine the nature of interpersonal relationships: understand who is friends with whom, whom you trust the most, and find out for yourself whether it is worth inviting that attractive person on a date. In addition, you can understand your own attitude towards people, noting with whom we meet eyes.
2. Those who do us a favor start liking us.
When we ask someone for a favor, they unconsciously look for a reason why they should do it. Typical mental reasoning is something like this: “this is my friend”, “I like him”, “it seems like a good person, we need to help out.” These justifications are of great benefit to us. Not only do we receive help, we are treated much better.
3. Silence eloquent
When you ask someone a question, and the counterpart is slow to answer, do not rush to “warm up” the conversation. Breaks are our advantage. If there is silence, people feel that now the word is theirs, and they consider what to say. This is a great technique for negotiations and difficult dialogues. Just resist the urge to force the conversation until you get a response.
4. Open palms create trust
LEGOLAND has a policy for employees that when they are asked where an item is, they must “present” it by pointing in its direction with an open hand, rather than just pointing a finger. This gesture builds trust: people are more likely to agree with what we say and consider us pleasant and friendly. Finger poking, on the contrary, is perceived as a manifestation of rudeness and aggression.
The next time you have to convince someone, try nodding your head. People unconsciously mirror the body language of those around them to better understand their point of view. By nodding during the conversation, we make it clear that our arguments are fair and optimal, and in most cases, the interlocutors agree to support them.
6. Interrupted activities are remembered better
The natural human tendency to remember unfinished events is called the Zeigarnik effect. Have you noticed that some commercials cut out unexpectedly? Companies specifically pay for this trick so that their products stay in the head longer than others. The best way to forget an ad or a hit song is to mentally end it. For example, if a popular song has stuck, try singing it in your mind to the last line. She will immediately disappear without a trace.
7. Chewing gum helps you relax and focus
Regular chewing gum reduces the level of cortisol, the hormone responsible for stress. In addition, we become more attentive and better at memorization tasks. This happens because the blood rushes to the brain and the sensations become more acute. If we chew gum in a stressful situation, the body is less likely to enter the fight-or-flight mode that leads to bad decisions. It is hardly convenient to speak and move your jaws at the same time, but before a public speaking or a difficult conversation, this trick calms you down perfectly.
8. Feet show interest
When interacting with people, pay attention to their feet. If they are directed in your direction, the interlocutor is interested and listens to your words. But if the feet “look” in the other direction, most likely he is bored and his thoughts are somewhere far away.
9. When you meet someone, call them by their first name several times.
The main thing is to repeat the name of a new acquaintance three times in the first five minutes, then it will definitely be remembered. Works great, but the trick is to make things happen effortlessly. When we blurt out someone’s name, neither in the village nor in the city, it sounds stupid and forced. It is better to use phrases like “Hi ________”, “Nice to meet you ________”, “Where are you from ________?”.
10. Sincere joy causes sympathy
Here again we are talking about mirroring each other. If we sincerely rejoice, meeting acquaintances, they have the same feeling for us. This is such an easy way to make a good first impression and make people like you. Remember? Try to apply these techniques, and you will certainly begin to notice that others have begun to treat you differently.
About the Author: Travis Bradbury is an entrepreneur and author of Emotional Intelligence 2.0.