Be more attentive to the details, it is in them that the answer to this question lies, says coach Leonid Krol. And he shares with us twelve signs that will indicate that you have stopped loving. Or that you’ve lost interest in your partner.
In love, everything is found: constant quiet burning, and recessions, and bursts, and brightness, and heat under the coals (especially when the wind blows) … But in the situations that will be discussed below, a touch of breathlessness is felt too clearly, constantly and clearly.
1. Anna Karenina in the novel of the same name by Leo Tolstoy began to irritate her husband’s ears. If something like this happens to you: before something did not cause a reaction, but now it catches your eye all the time, or what you liked is now repulsive, most likely, there have been big changes in the relationship.
2. They look at you a little, often turn away. Or you began to notice such an attitude towards your partner.
3. Conversations are mostly about formal things, they start just to take time and maintain a semblance of contact.
4. Often, for little or no reason, you talk to each other in an annoyed tone.
5. They constantly argue with you or are silent, as if clamping the answer or remark in themselves.
6. You notice that you become uninterested in almost everything that your partner says or can say. Communication with him seems to take energy.
7. You smile less often. If you look closely, you will notice that in your presence they hold their breath.
8. The partner does not continue the proposed topic, but seeks to finish it as soon as possible.
There is a feeling that you are wasting time, everything feels bored and doomed
9.You catch yourself feeling that everything has already been said between you, there will be nothing new and “you must endure”.
10 Around the person who has fallen out of love, it is as if a gap is being formed, a “shadow”, a border that one does not want to cross. This applies to everything – topics for communication, activities, people around …
11 There is a feeling that you are wasting time, everything feels bored and doomed.
12 Near a partner, the usual things cease to please. Everything becomes dull and uninteresting.
Of course, we can say that the listed signs are just minor details, but life consists of them, its imperceptible part, but affecting the atmosphere and mood.
Be attentive to the lost curiosity, the lost energy, the spiritual load that has appeared where there was meaning and joy before.
About the Developer
Leonid Krol psychologist, coach, trainer, business consultant. Director and Lead Trainer of the Personnel Training Center “Class”.