How to understand that you are better off living alone

We began to live more freely. Couples who do not want children, single parents, “test-tube babies” are the reality of recent decades. However, society is still distrustful of convinced bachelors.

It is hard to believe that some are so self-sufficient that they do not need a strong shoulder, care and affection, marital support. Friends try to introduce them to someone, and relatives harass them with questions about their personal lives.

Sometimes singles do not withstand the pressure of society and find a partner, as a result of which both are unhappy. It is better to try to find out if you are really ready to spend your life alone.

1. How do you feel about finding a partner?

Do you like to go on dates? Avoid meeting new people? What exactly do you dislike: the process itself or the prospect of living together? When friends want to set you up with someone, do you come up with excuses to avoid meeting?

2. How do you imagine family life?

Do you fantasize about doing a lot of things together: shopping, traveling, worrying about the same things? Or do you dream of a workaholic partner whose main advantage is the constant absence from home? Perhaps you don’t want to live with another person. You enjoy being alone.

3. How did you feel in past relationships?

If you’ve dated a mentally unstable person, it’s only natural that you’re wary of a new relationship. If your partner was caring, considerate, smart and likeable, and you dreamed of being on a desert island, you are probably a loner.

You are not against communication, but you are not ready to be together with someone. Most of the time you want to live at your own pace and decide whether to cook dinner or go to a restaurant, go to the movies or spend an evening with a book.

4. How do you feel when you break up with someone?

Most experience sadness, anxiety, and even despair when a breakup occurs. The Lonely Hearts are relieved when a relationship ends.

At the same time, we are not talking about “toxic” relationships, these people miss the single life, they need freedom. And no matter how loving, attentive and interesting the partner was.

5. You have decided to get married. What do you feel?

In one study, 464 newlyweds were asked how they felt when they decided to get married. 47% of men and 38% of women admitted that they felt insecure. Four years later, it turned out that women who were not sure of the correctness of the decision were divorced 2,5 times more often than those who did not have doubts.

6. How do you feel at the wedding of friends or relatives?

Do you dream of being in their place? Do you rejoice for them or sympathize with them, because now they are not free?

7. Imagine being alone forever. What do you feel?

We know many fairy tales about love, but so far no one has dared to write a story about a man who lived happily ever after in complete solitude. However, this does not mean that life alone cannot be full and happy.