Even if we are firmly convinced that the person next to us is “the one” and ideally suits us, one more important factor cannot be discounted: his unwillingness to create an alliance with us.
1. He/she claims to be “not ready for a relationship” yet, but acts like your other half
And it’s not that a person sincerely loves you, but is not yet ready for obligations. Most likely, the point is that he or she likes you, but not so much as to translate everything into an “official channel”. Perhaps you, without knowing it, are now going through a “probationary period” altogether. Alas, if a partner lingers for a long time, most likely, we can say with confidence: his answer is “no”.
2. Acts differently when a friend is around
Of course, none of us behaves with a partner in public in exactly the same way as behind the closed doors of our own home – that would be too much. But if a person, once in a company, noticeably moves away and moves away from you, there is reason to be wary.
3. And doesn’t try to strike a balance between work and personal life.
It is high time to recognize that workaholism is not a choice, but an avoidance mechanism. It often happens like this: as soon as a person meets someone in whom he is really interested, the work immediately either fades into the background, or begins to take up adequate time.
If he’s always “too busy” and can’t make time to meet with you, well, it looks like his career is more important to him.
4 Says he’s afraid of missing out on his “wonderful years of youth”
In practice, this means that there are better options than you.
5. Allows close to him, but does not hurry to open in response
You have been together for quite a long time, but still do not know anything about his or her past and do not know any of your friends? Today a person is frank with you, and tomorrow he is cold and does not show the slightest interest? Real intimacy cannot be created, and your potential partner does not seem to strive for this.
6. Confused about what he wants in the long run
After a person admitted that he wants to be with you “until the end of his days”, do you suddenly find out that he (a) is thinking of moving to another city or even country (for work or just to try to live in a new place)? It seems that the partner is still looking for himself. And what will happen to your relationship when he finds it is not yet clear.
7. Claims to be “too painfully burned” to try again
The way a person you like talks about their past partners will help you understand how he or she really feels. And if it is “too painful” for him to try something new, it seems that the wound has not yet healed, and love has not passed. What to do with this information is, of course, up to you. But forewarned is forearmed.