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The feeling of love inspires. But how to understand that the wonderful state of «butterflies in the stomach» will turn over time into an equally beautiful «together forever»? And although no study can (fortunately) answer this question accurately, there are signals that suggest one or another development of events.
Ask yourself some questions. Honest answers to them will help you understand in which direction your relationship will develop.
How similar are you?
This question is not easy to answer: a romantic veil prevents you from seeing a real person in front of you. Research shows that people who are different from us are usually attracted, but, for all the initial passion, such relationships quickly decline.
For a long-term union, commonality is important, what unites: similar life values and expectations, interests, level of education, ideas about how best to spend free time.
Have you introduced each other to your friends?
If the person you’re dating is open to a long-term relationship, they’re more likely to include you in their circle of significant people—family and friends—is very high. So he emphasizes your importance in his own life.
The one who, deep down, is aware of himself as still free, is more willing to look around
The more friends you include in communication and the more willingly you will maintain this connection, the more likely it is that the relationship will develop.
Are you afraid to be alone?
Sometimes we unwittingly begin to consider new relationships as ideal if we are afraid to be alone.
For those who feel uncomfortable being alone, it is difficult to leave a relationship, even if there is no feeling of intimacy with a partner. At the same time, they behave with him as with a potential life partner: they respond to courtship, demonstrate a mood for relationships and romantic interest. However, over time, it becomes more and more difficult to deceive yourself and hold onto the illusion of a magical coincidence.
Does the partner show interest not only in you?
How we react when we meet sexually attractive members of the opposite sex can also determine the prospect of a union. Research on unconscious behavior shows that truly engaged partners involuntarily withhold their attention from others.
A person who is interested in a short-term relationship avoids showing genuine intimacy.
In the event that this does not happen and the partner visually evaluates other potential candidates (or you feel this desire in yourself), it is more likely that the relationship will not stand the test of time. The one who, deep down, realizes that he is still free, is more willing to look around.
How does the partner react to attempts to get even closer?
A person interested in a short-term relationship usually avoids showing genuine intimacy. He is generous with touches, hugs, kisses, but rarely shows his affection and desire to take care.
Often such people, under plausible pretexts, ignore calls and messages, avoid getting to know their close circle. And although formally they can support conversations about a joint future, they themselves do not initiate them. In words, the partner does not deny the possibility of a long-term relationship, but non-verbal signals may indicate the opposite.