I need to work, but I don’t want to…
Spring shied away, appearing!
Is that familiar?
Sometimes you need to do something, and you yourself understand what you need, but your soul pulls in a completely different direction: “I don’t want to!” A situation familiar to everyone. Yes, everyone, but someone faces this every day, while for someone it happens extremely rarely. What is it connected with? Let’s think.
Who gets it more often — children or adults? Answer: in children. In whom is this less common — among young ladies or among military people? Answer: military people. It seems that this is connected with the development of man’s adulthood, with the development of his mind and will. If a person has healthy energy, a good head and a developed will, then in order to do something, he does not need to strain at all: the head sets goals and determines the direction, the energy gives the driving force, the will shapes the energy into movement in the right direction. This is how an adult and intelligent person lives. However, the will is not developed in everyone, and life energy sometimes disappears with age, turning into only situational bursts of emotions and desires. A person finds himself in a situation where, in the face of life’s tasks, he has only a lifeless, only from the head understanding of «Need!» and a lively, but little controlled “I want!”.
It seems that in this case there is only one solution: to abandon the lifeless reasonable “I must” and seek salvation in the living “I want!”: even if it is not always reasonable, but at least there is life in it. The head begins to be seen as the source of problems, and emotions as the only source of salvation. This solution is indeed quite common, but it is not the only possible one and certainly not always optimal. A competent decision is not to live without a head, only emotions, but in a reasonable approach to life, complemented by competent self-motivation.
Everything is determined by the level of development of the individual. If a person lives not only at the level of a vegetable, if some level of culture and some light of reason is inherent in him, instead of giving up reasonable “I need to”, you can translate all these “I need” into living “I want”, which will become both alive and reasonable . While the human organism is sorting out what he wants, the human personality looks at what is needed now and takes care that he wants it. As a rule, this is not a difficult matter.
For example, you MUST prepare for a difficult interview, but you don’t want to. What can help? It makes sense to take a piece of paper and write down: what I will get if the interview is successful, and what problems I can expect otherwise. It is good to make a bright collage in which future joys will be visually concentrated, skillful people use suggestions. It is wise to remove everything that distracts from preparing for the interview, and arrange the study and workplace as comfortably as possible so that it is pleasant to prepare. Next, set yourself a time for energetic (necessarily energetic!) Work, then a time for rest and joy. with which you will reward yourself.
See Methods for effective self-organization for more details.
If for the future you master the exercise “Good!” and “If I loved”, there will be even fewer problems: inside it will always be good, and what is NEEDED will immediately turn out to be FAVORITE at the same time.
Much love to you!
How it works:
Writes Denis Ch.: “This week I made an important discovery for myself: If I realize why I am doing this exercise, imagine the image of myself renewed by the exercise, then this increases my motivation and mood at work”, see →