It is not necessary to work honestly, it is pointless, the main thing is to successfully catch the moment, to be at the right time in the right place. It seems that this is what our formula for success looks like today. This means that we need a new understanding of success that will make it attractive to worthy people.
I understand how difficult it is to raise a successful child. After all, it is not clear how to teach success, what lessons to present? No wonder they say — «from the works of the righteous you can not build stone chambers.» And the very word «success» is connected with the verb «to be in time» — to have time to grab luck by the tail. Whoever had time — he ate it.
If you think about it, the picture comes out unattractive: you don’t need to work honestly, it’s pointless, the main thing is to successfully catch the moment, to be at the right time in the right place. This seems to be our formula for success. But how do you teach it? Repeat with “the chosen ones you will be elected, with the rejected you will be rejected” — make friends with useful and promising ones, and you will have more chances? Ugh! Still wisdom. With the help of such dashing instructions, you can only grow up an upstart and a rogue, a lightweight and superficial person, to whom you, the parent, will be on your side if you “did not have time” for something in life.
Actually, all our dislike for the rich and famous grows from this understanding of success. But French / English success (succes / success) is initially associated with a completely different idea, with the idea of uXNUMXbuXNUMXbconsistency and inheritance. Success (wealth, fame) comes as a result of many years of hard work. The famous brand, often representing the name of the founder, passes from generation to generation and as a result, if the sweat rolled down from the face, then there will be victory, fame, money, success. Although no one has canceled the smiles of Fortune on individual lucky ones either — there are many different most fantastic examples, instant take-offs — but the algorithm for achieving success in culture is ironclad and will not lie down for discussion.
- Let’s stop putting pressure on our children!
Our Russian success is fleeting and accidental, neither love nor respect is due for it. And what is it for? Maybe there is something better? Alas. Soviet happiness has irretrievably sunk into oblivion; living for a bright future under the applause of party comrades is not relevant. Serving the Muses also requires a success algorithm, and see above about it. Telling a child: learn languages, you will succeed — you will leave, you will sparkle somewhere, where milk rivers and jelly banks (and, most importantly, everything is clear with success) is also not an option. Sowing conflict with the environment, school, yard, street, friends, declaring all this somehow worse is a dangerous undertaking, a direct path to complexes and difficulties in communication.
Or maybe you don’t need to wish success for the child, there is no need to teach this child? Maybe it is not relevant for our place and time? Relevant. And how can we not wish, if we want it. I would like to be successful, build stone chambers, be adored, happy… So, we need a formula that will give a new understanding of success, make it approved and attractive to worthy people. So that a successful person should not be ashamed to set an example.
But you can’t order a word. At the behest of a pike, at my will, you cannot instantly fill it with a new meaning. Therefore, there is only one way out: to raise strong, thinking people who know how to be happy. We are lucky that we understand this. And they will ever rethink success. They will show you how.