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In autumn and winter, it is more difficult for us to keep ourselves in shape – cold and darkness provoke overeating. Psychotherapist, specialist in eating disorders Gerard Apfeldorfer gives simple advice.
1. Look at your favorite food differently – not as an enemy, but as a friend and ally. You should not languish in the endless struggle with tasty and healthy foods, cross out potatoes and chocolate from your life, imitating the love for “zero” yogurts and steamed carrots. You can lose weight by continuing to eat wholesome, tasty foods, but just in smaller quantities. Learn to eat small meals. Less is better, but better is the motto of the slender.
2. Try to treat chocolate like a normal product. We complain about its nutritional value, which is in fact its main advantage. The more nutritious the food, the tastier it is, and the tastier it is, the less it is needed to enjoy it, that is, to get enough of it. Prioritize quality, savor a small bite with taste, telling yourself that another will follow … only tomorrow.
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3. Fat slowly accumulates and slowly leaves. You should not go on a diet if you have gained 3 kg in a week: such a rapid weight gain can only be explained by fluid retention.
4. No need to waste time and effort chasing the ideal weight. It is better to find your sustainable weight. It is also called natural weight: we can maintain it for a long time and without effort, listening to our bodily and food sensations.
5. There are only two ways to eat: controlling yourself or listening to yourself. Libra tends to incline us towards control, turning the body into a potentially dangerous object for surveillance and coercion. If we listen to our nutritional and bodily needs in general, then the body will become a partner, not an adversary.
6. Almost everyone has their own food taboos. Forbidden foods I call those foods that we try to avoid in everyday life, but which we begin to absorb in huge quantities, as soon as we lose control of ourselves even for a minute. Thus, a vicious circle arises: the more severe the prohibition, the more inevitable and negative the consequences of its violation. The stronger the taboo, the more we depend on it. No product by itself causes immediate weight gain – it all depends on our attitude towards it.
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7. Deprive the object of your desire of the halo of exclusivity. That box of chocolates or slices of ham, shining ominously and enticing, of course, deserves to be eaten more often – then they will finally lose their imaginary power over you. Eat them every (yes, yes!) time you want to make peace with these foods that you both desire and hate at the same time. Focus on tasting so you can more easily capture the point of supreme enjoyment. Over time, you will learn to stop at this moment, completely naturally and without any frustration.
8. It is necessary to learn again to eat based on internal needs: to listen to your appetite, to feelings of satiety and hunger, to your tastes. Our task is to return to the physiological attitude to food, moving away from the emotional. As prisoners of our emotions, some of us eat out of anxiety, rage, or fear without realizing it. But as soon as emotions subside, a person realizes that he ate in vain and feels guilty. Exit? Learn to release emotions in other ways (sports, entertainment), and let food become a moment of sensual pleasure for you.
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9. What if the child insists on chocolate or chips? First, it is better to ask if he is hungry. If not, maybe something is going wrong? Cravings for sweets and fatty foods (such foods do have calming properties) usually occur when a child lacks warmth – attention, affection, kind words. Don’t teach him to eat instead of talking. Invite him to talk about his worries and feelings, try to talk heart to heart. Let him eat the candy and discuss why he wanted it so much. “Sit down with me, let me hug you, and you will tell me how your life is, what is good, what is not very … And then, if you want, you can take another candy …”