The parent-child relationship is not an equal relationship, says psychologist Susan Stiffelman.
She assigns the role of a captain to her parent, able to manage the ship both in complete calm and in a strong storm. Being at the helm means maintaining composure even when children provoke strong emotions in us and stop obeying. Then the child knows: there is someone who is able to help him survive any adversity. But the captain needs the ability to ask (himself and the child) precise questions and listen to the answers. Susan Stiffelman shows how this approach works in different situations, whether we want to teach a child to communicate, manage anger and fears, or instill in him resilience and self-respect.
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