The other day, a colleague shared a mega-secret on how to properly sort things out.
The topic is interesting — they often write to me, they say, here you advise to communicate with your loved ones, discuss your relationship, and how we begin to communicate and discuss, we have only scandals, quarrels and scuffles. It turns out somehow inconvenient.
Now, thanks to a colleague, I know what to answer.
So, the key is that before clarifying the relationship, you need to check three zones: food, sex, sleep. That is, whether a person is full, whether he is sexually satisfied, whether he has had enough sleep.
There is an opinion that men and women have a different sequence (only sex is the same — in second place), but this seems superfluous to me. After all, individual differences are always stronger than gender or even gender differences (didn’t you know that gender and gender are different concepts?).
The main thing is that you can’t talk about your relationship if one of you has not had enough sleep, is hungry, or has not received sexual satisfaction for a long time. In such scenarios, the conversation will be at least useless, and most likely harmful.
So, this is how it should be done. A conversation is brewing, but you didn’t get enough sleep? Postpone. Sleep.
Has your husband come home from work? Do not cut him for carelessness, but feed him.
Saturday didn’t work out, you want to make a scandal? Pull the husband/wife to bed. Then, if you have the strength, quarrel.
What, too simple and primitive? But what if such primitivism is already forgotten, and people make the simplest, one might say, kindergarten mistakes?