How to see the hero in your man

Women often complain: representatives of the strong half of humanity “crushed”. But maybe the fact is that we are taking on more and more traditionally male functions, and men are becoming weak and passive? As a result, the image of a strong, courageous and determined hero fades.

“Women themselves contribute to the” grinding “of men”

Alena Al-As, psychologist:

Initially, in the female picture of the world, a man is a conqueror, protector, earner, leader, head of the family. To be protected is our natural need. But the development of society and emancipation have shifted the balance of power and the role of the sexes.

Smart and strong women have to painfully part with the stereotype of a male leader, which was laid down by nature. In everyday life, they notice that a man is not so strong and savvy, inconsistent in decisions and makes mistakes. As a result, we stop seeing a hero in a partner.

The stronger your “inner man”, the weaker and more passive the man next to you will be. A woman takes power into her own hands, makes decisions on her own, knocks the ground out from under her partner’s feet and is disappointed in him. Further more. No woman wants to live with a “rag”, even if she turned a man into a “rag” herself.

“TO SEE THE HERO IN YOUR FAVORITE AGAIN”

Ekaterina Vashukova, psychologist:

It hurts to realize that a man has ceased to be a hero. But all is not yet lost. It is not in our power to remake another person, but to understand ourselves and our attitude towards him completely.

Here are four steps to help you do just that.

1. REVIEW THE SETTINGS

Hero – what does that mean to you? An all-powerful character from children’s fairy tales? An image created by a loving mother who put her ideals and hopes for your future into it? Or a product of social stereotypes? All this is an immature idea of ​​the image of a man.

At the initial stage of the relationship, it seems that he is perfect, his actions are admirable. During this period, it is not difficult to see a hero in him. But later we are faced with unjustified expectations, we realize how it differs from a fictional image. At this stage, it is important not to devalue the qualities of a man. Try to look for the positives. The main thing is that his values ​​coincide with yours. The hero is not the strongest and most beautiful, but the one who goes with you to the end.

2. BE A HERO

If next to a man you feel like a “heroine”: you enjoy life, realize yourself in the professional and family spheres, set goals and achieve them, this is your common merit. A real hero supports a woman and inspires her to new achievements.

But the opposite is also true. If it seems that a man is not good enough, analyze your life. As a rule, devaluing a partner, a woman devalues ​​herself. Try to show the best qualities next to a man: a sense of humor, kindness, the ability to empathize. The result will pleasantly surprise you.

3. TREAT HIM AS A HERO

We tend to fantasize about the future, talk about how to improve relationships, financial situation and partner. But it is important not just to dream, but to act. Start treating your man like a hero right now, and he will show his virtues more vividly. This is the case when the form can affect the content.

4. SUPPORT AND ACCEPT

The path of the hero is the path of his “I”. From childhood, the boy proves to himself and the world that he is able to achieve results, worthy of being called a man.

Often, representatives of the strong half of humanity admit that they are hurt by the mocking remarks of their wives. Women underestimate the actions that their husbands consider important and successful. A man is filled and inspired by the recognition of any of his exploits, even insignificant ones. When he gets your support, it pushes him to new heights.