Relationships are a process, they cannot be built once and for all. Conditions, priorities, desires, opportunities change, and often feelings become dull over time. What to do to keep relationships strong and feelings fresh?
1. Sex. Analyze what has changed during the time that you are together. If the changes have not been for the better, diversify your sex life with a well-forgotten old one. If the changes are for the better, do not stop there, experiment, make something new.
2. Dates. Remember how it was? Slight excitement, desire to be interesting and attractive in the eyes of a partner. A long-term relationship or marriage is no reason to forget what brought joy. Date each other at the entrance to the cinema, in a restaurant, on the beach, near the subway. Invite to morning coffee in a coffee shop around the corner, evening walks in the park, Sunday feeding of ducks. Diversify your daily life.
3. New drive. Do something that you have never done together, get vivid impressions: skydiving, paragliding, rafting, diving, rock climbing, wakeboarding. There are many interesting things in the world, the sharpness of sensations and the exchange of impressions will bring novelty and strengthen relationships.
4. Art therapy. This is not only visual art. Plunging into the state of creativity, a person switches from the ordinary to the unique. Visit a body art club, create your own love story on your partner’s body. Discover your partner’s body in a new way. It’s fun, interesting, and gives the relationship a resource. Go dancing, learn new moves together. I recall the words of the heroine of the movie “Let’s dance”: “Dance is a vertical expression of a horizontal desire.”
It doesn’t matter if you can draw or dance, it’s important to discover something new with a partner. Take off the mask of an adult, a business person and immerse yourself in the state of a creative child, we all come from childhood.
5. Home spa. Learn the basics of massage. Pick up light relaxing music, essential oils or scented candles, massage oils. Stroking, tactile contact, an atmosphere of light intimacy will give relaxation, strengthen confidence, and increase attraction.
6. Simple joys. Pay attention to the little things: fragrant morning coffee with croissants in bed, your favorite goodies from the store, a dish ordered from a restaurant to take home. Joint bath with oils and rose petals. Coupon for a spa, hotel, beauty salon, sauna, football match or theater ticket. Light dinner by candlelight. Imagine and put into practice. Life is made up of little things, let them be pleasant.
7. Surprises. Surprise each other, even if not nearby: put a bouquet of wild flowers or a box of chocolates in a dresser drawer that your partner uses daily. Leave a note on the refrigerator with a wish for a good morning, good day, words of love. Order a bouquet of flowers, balloons with home delivery. Let pleasant moments inspire, cheer up and attract each other.
8. Make life easier. To have more time for each other, equip your life. Modern technology allows us to reduce the time we spend on cooking or washing dishes. A coffee machine, microwave oven, dishwasher, multicooker will save energy and time for something more important and valuable.
9. Be partners. Don’t forget partnership. Only in partnership are the couple happy. Partners do not help each other, but do everything together: rest, work, have fun. Relationships in a couple are like stove heating in a house: if there is firewood and matches, it will be warm and cozy. But to build a house, a stove, to prepare firewood is the responsibility of not one, but two equal partners.
About the Developer
Olga Mazurkevich — art therapist, perinatal, crisis psychologist. Her .