How to respond to fear, if there is a benefit to being afraid behind it? How to respond to resentment, if resentment is beneficial?
One of the most common answers is to create a situation where the problematic behavior suddenly becomes unprofitable. How is it, for example?
The wife began to complain often that she did not have time to do anything. The husband is not a bum, he works at two jobs, and in this situation he set the condition: “So, stop sitting on VKontakte.” The wife tried to protest, remembering her personal rights, but she ran into a reasonable remark: “Please, you can use VKontakte, but then you don’t have to complain about the lack of time. Actually, you can choose: either you complain, or you waste your time like that. The issue, at least in this particular situation, was thus resolved.
I’m afraid to sleep alone
My friend’s child lived in the summer in the village with his grandmother. The room in the house was one large, the grandmother went to bed next to her grandson. When a five-year-old boy was brought home, he flatly refused to sleep alone in his room, saying that he was scared, although before the trip to the village he slept peacefully alone. Once again, when the boy began to moan that he would not go to sleep alone in his room, only with his mother, she asked him seriously, “What has changed, before you slept alone?” The child said that the scary cartoons that he watches are to blame for everything, they scare him. “Now everything is clear, we just don’t watch cartoons, right?” — said my friend, the child thought and asked his mother to sleep with him for the last time. The story ended there, because the next day the boy calmly went to sleep alone in his room↑.