When they have already done a lot, it is more difficult to put up. But if you remember all the good things that happened and sincerely take a step forward, much is possible. Will you try?
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Objectively, it is easier for a girl to make peace with a guy than for a guy to make peace with a girl — if a girl honestly admits she is wrong in the event of a quarrel, the guys do not take offense for a long time. At the same time, subjectively, the opposite is true: it is more difficult for girls to take steps towards reconciliation than for boys. Even if she herself understands that she was wrong and messed up, it can be very difficult for a girl to take the first step towards reconciliation, feelings are spinning in her soul, self-criticism comes in, internal showdowns occur … In fact, if you don’t have constant quarrels and you quarreled just now everything is easy to solve.
Perhaps you got into a fight in a conversation and are now pouting and silent, looking away from each other — do not worry, do not be afraid of anything, while everything is fine. Nothing terrible happened, quarrels at your age are a common thing: the sun is replaced by clouds, and then the sky disperses. If you realize that you have said too much and want to make peace, it is enough to do just two things: give him a hand and sob. Well, that is, first make an upset face, and then sob. If you just sob, he will be angry, and if you sobbed softly, but gave him your hand, a normal guy will respond to your hand and you will hug.
It will be a little more difficult further, you need to say «Forgive me!» — and keep silent, or rather keep yourself from further showdowns and conversations about why he is still wrong. By the way, it always helps if you quickly change the situation: if you were sitting — get up, if you were standing — sit down, if you were walking in one direction — take his hand and turn in the other direction. For some reason, after such simple things, everything becomes different, the quarrel is over, you can start everything in a good way. Change the subject, and if something else needs to be discussed, it is better to postpone it for later. As you said today, it doesn’t work, so you need to look for some other option. Or come up with it yourself, or consult with one of the smart people.
Another situation is if you quarreled and have already fled. He doesn’t call you, and you think about how to call him again … so far, it’s okay, don’t scold yourself, and if you were wrong, write a simple letter to your boyfriend about it. You can also call, but on the phone you can say not what you should, and in a letter you will be more accurate, so the letter is more reliable. You don’t need to write anything long, something quite simple will do, for example like this:
Slava, I want to make peace with you.
I was wrong.
You see, I had a fight with my sister, I was in a bad mood and angry at everyone, including myself. This happens to girls. Then you called, and instead of telling you everything, I continued to get angry … The conversation did not work out, because of this I was even more angry with myself and just freaked out …
In short, I need you, but I will not be such a beech, I will tell you everything and I want to make peace with you. I am cute and beautiful now.
World?
If you quarreled more seriously, because he also told you a lot of superfluous, sick and unfair things, it only means that a few extra sentences are added to the letter. So:
Slava, I want to make peace with you.
I was wrong.
You see, I had a fight with my sister, I was in a bad mood and angry at everyone, including myself. This happens to girls. Then you called, and instead of telling you everything, I continued to get angry … The conversation did not work out, because of this I was even more angry with myself and just freaked out …
I was wrong, sorry.
You didn’t hold back either, did you? In short, we both said a lot of nonsense to each other. I propose to reconcile. I apologize for my stupidity, another time I will tell you everything at once, you will understand me, support me, kiss me and I will stop being angry. And I’ll be good. And flowers from you, you also ask me for forgiveness for yours and I want to see you.
World?
If after that he makes contact, he is well done, and you are smart, and everything is fine with you.
If after that he does not make contact, then he either died, or still you are not meeting with the one you need to meet. Through friends, you can ventilate the situation, what is happening there, and if he received your letter, but he is still pouting at you, then the last thing you can do is call him briefly or visit him unexpectedly. After that, you either make up completely, or completely part. Both are much better than being in limbo for a long time.
At the University of Practical Psychology, students work through many such situations, learn to act and live wisely. On the one hand, this is a two-year professional training of coaches, consultants and trainers, on the other hand, these are two years of personal development and thinking. There I, Professor Nikolai Ivanovich Kozlov, work personally. Interesting — sign up for a demo training and start learning.
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