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Today, in order to get to know a person better, it is enough to study the profile in social networks. When making a new acquaintance, we first of all find him or her on Facebook (an extremist organization banned in Russia) and carefully study the information: photos, mutual acquaintances, check-ins, stories. The account is our gift wrapping, an improved version, shown in the best possible way. But what about shortcomings? How to learn to identify the weaknesses of people, despite their cloudless Facebook life?
Experienced psychologists figured us out a long time ago, tearing off the masks and exposing the real us — with wrinkles, fears and complexes. After studying hundreds of profiles, they identified several types of social networking behaviors that can determine who is in front of you.
As a rule, such a user has a closed profile. Moreover, he does not spoil even his friends with information about himself: there are only a couple of photos in the account, several “check-ins” from a year and a half ago and a couple of subscriptions.
“This is a typical introvert,” explains family psychologist Yulia Tokarskaya. — Perhaps such a person tried to be in trend, for which he created an account on Facebook (an extremist organization banned in Russia), but that was all. It is difficult for him to flaunt life and share information about himself. A secretive type of behavior may indicate that the user is experiencing emotional difficulties. The darkest option is depression, when a person tries not to get in touch with the outside world at all.
«Fissile» type
The account of such a user resembles the chronicle of the instant monitoring service of the entire Internet. On the page, he shares everything indiscriminately: recipes, news, pictures.
“Such a user tries to please everyone at once,” the psychologist believes. — He does not have his own image, style, he is a «hodgepodge». As a rule, such a person lives on the principle of «carbon copy», does not become a pioneer and a source of interesting ideas. He may have hidden talents, but he does not consider them to be such or even shy.
Dolce vita type
If you see an account in which a photo from the Maldives is replaced by a sunset over the Tower Bridge, do not rush to envy. This vita is not always true dolce. Most likely, in front of you is not an avid traveler and sybarite, but a lonely person who is afraid to reveal his sadness to those around him.
“Look, what an interesting and varied life I have!” — shouts every photo on the wall of such a user. However, often behind all this lies a deeply unhappy person. The variety of places and events may indicate that it is difficult for him to be alone with himself, and he puts on the mask of an always happy person. It is important for him to know that his life serves as an example for someone: in this way he gets rid of the sense of the meaninglessness of what is happening.
Type «Frank»
By the status of such a user, you can track how his mood changes, literally by the minute. He talks about it in detail, supplementing the posts with the statuses “puzzled”, “in high spirits”, “happy”, and so on.
“When a person is too open to the world, he shares his emotions with everyone all the time. Can publish even the most intimate moments, such as a photo in an embrace with a partner in bed, says the psychologist. — This is his way of showing that he is «his». Most likely, this person was once rejected by society or is simply afraid of it and tries to please everyone so that he is not rejected.
Type «sexy is my middle name»
Such a person — be it a man or a woman — knows how to show himself and especially his body. Looking through the page of this user, you can see him from a variety of angles, and in most of the pictures he will be half-naked.
“If we talk about the desire to impress, sexuality is always a XNUMX% hit,” explains the psychologist. — By posting photos of his body, the author expects encouragement and monitors the number of «likes». He just doesn’t know how else to earn them. This behavior is based on low self-esteem and lack of self-confidence. It also suggests that a person is at a basic level of development, when physiological needs predominate in the value system.”
Type «in pursuit of the perfect body»
In his profile you will see the perfect athletic body in the most successful angles. And this is not about professional athletes, for whom sport is the meaning of life, but about ordinary people obsessed with their bodies.
“If a person has an adequate image of his body, he is quite satisfied with it. If he does not accept his body, it quickly turns into a problem, says Yuliya Tokarskaya. — Such a person will continuously transform himself: plastic surgery, constant diets, sports will be used. People with a distorted body image often experience difficulties in their sex life and are generally unhappy.”
Type «master selfie»
Wherever such a user is, he will definitely take a picture of himself. A single expression froze on his face, and it creates the feeling of a photomontage, as if the same portrait was pasted into different frames.
“If only it were narcissism! Alas, this is far from the case. A large number of selfies in the profile indicates an extremely low self-esteem of the user. He tries over and over again to convince himself that he is really handsome. He does not believe, does not appreciate and does not love himself, and therefore is photographed every 15 minutes. This is one of the manifestations of narcissism, which is always based on extremely low self-esteem.
Type «Yazhemat»
Only his parents and grandparents can view hundreds of photographs of the same child with interest. Then why do some mothers constantly post photos of their children?
“Some women flaunt the ideal image of motherhood,” explains espert. “They unconsciously need it because they themselves don’t believe they are good enough for their child and need “social strokes.” With their photographs, they try to convince themselves and others that they are doing everything right. Often this turns into a competition «Who is the best mother?». And this is not at all about the happiness of motherhood.
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So, at the heart of many «demonstration performances» of users in social networks is their low self-esteem. Such people become addicted to social networks, do not enjoy the moment, but rush to demonstrate their achievements to others in order to gain approval.
These users need to constantly receive confirmation of their value from the outside, every comment is important for them, because it is from the opinions of others that their self-image is formed. Social media is becoming a way to make an impression, and this goal replaces the more important goal of becoming someone. Not for others, but for yourself.
Did you recognize yourself in one of the descriptions? Do not rush to despair: to one degree or another, these characteristics are common to all of us. And if you notice a clear “kink” in yourself, any problem can be solved. Even knowing the problem is half the solution.