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How to raise a son for a mom
Raising a child is always a responsibility and hope. Because it depends on us what kind of personality the baby will grow up to be. But mothers who are raising boys have a special responsibility. After all, he must become a real man, and it is sometimes difficult for a woman to figure out how to raise a son. Personal example won’t work here and choosing the right tactics can be tricky.
How to raise a son for a mother: three stages
Boys are amazing creatures. They are affectionate and at the same time ruffled, stubborn, mischievous, active. Sometimes it seems that they literally spark from the overwhelming energy, and at the same time it is impossible to get them to do something useful.
It is sometimes difficult for mothers to understand how to raise a son.
Raising a son is a complex process with its own characteristics. Boys grow up in leaps and bounds, sometimes dramatically changing even within one year. Psychologists and educators distinguish three stages of their development and, accordingly, three different strategies of education.
Stage 1 – up to 6 years. This is the time of the greatest intimacy with the mother. Moreover, it was noticed that boys are even more affectionate and attached to their mother than girls. And if during this period the baby does not have enough communication with men, then difficulties may arise: disobedience, ignorance of the father’s requirements, non-recognition of his authority. Husbands, as a rule, blame their wives for this, who raised the “mama’s son,” and one must blame oneself for shifting all the worries about the son onto the shoulders of the mother.
Stage 2 – 6-14 years old. This is the period of the boy’s entry into the male world. At this time, the main features of the male character and the male type of behavior are formed. This age is characterized by the desire to dominate. This normal male need gives mom a lot of unpleasant minutes. After all, her son from a kind, obedient and affectionate baby turned into a stubborn bully, and often a rude one. And it is at this time that the father or other authoritative man must demonstrate correct male behavior, which includes respect and tenderness for the mother woman.
Stage 3 14-18 years old. A period of active physiological restructuring of the body, the awakening of sexuality and, in many respects, the aggression associated with it. But at this time, a worldview is also formed, an attitude to life, to people, self-esteem is formed.
The role of the mother, her communication with her son, and the methods of upbringing should change as the boy grows up. One cannot expect that a 12-year-old teenager will cuddle with the same eagerness as a 3-year-old toddler. And the mother’s attempts to impose this type of behavior on him will only annoy.
How to raise a son correctly
The relationship of mothers with maturing sons often resembles a protracted battle. Moreover, the more the mother insists on her, the more disobedient the son becomes. But, you must admit, it is difficult to be independent and obedient at the same time, to be self-confident and obey unquestioningly. What should be done to raise a real man?
It’s not easy for mom to raise her son, especially after 14 years
- Timely notice the age-related changes of the child and try to behave in accordance with his age, and preferably slightly ahead of him.
- Don’t lose emotional contact with your son. It is he who will allow you to maintain an attitude of love and mutual care for life. Emotional contact is manifested in an interest in the boy’s problems, the desire to support him, to help him cope, and not to reproach him for being a bummer, stubborn and lazy.
- Remember that you need a man to raise your son. Ideally, this is a father, but fathers are different, and not all of them can serve as a standard of behavior. Moreover, women often raise a child without a husband. In this case, an uncle, friend, grandfather, coach in the sports section, etc. can be a role model.
- It is necessary to educate the kid with independence and responsibility for their decisions and actions – this is an integral part of a man’s character.
Of course, there is no single recipe for raising boys. But besides the general principles, there is one very good piece of advice. Raise your son so that he becomes the “man of your dreams” so that he has the qualities that you consider important and significant in men.
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