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How to raise a real man from a boy: what to look for
In order for a boy to become the head of the family and a breadwinner in the future, it is necessary to correctly form his character in childhood.
January 28 2018
It is not a man’s fault that he is spoiled and childish. His character is influenced first by his parents, and then by the women. The author of books on child psychology, mother of 11 children, Yekaterina Burmistrova, tells what you need to pay attention to in order for the boy to become the head of the family and a breadwinner in the future.
It’s good when a child has an example to follow – a father who takes care of his mother, provides for his family, and even a jack of all trades at home. But there are not many of them. If the dad does not strain, the boy, as an adult, will behave the same way. It is important that both parents, even if they are divorced, strive to bring up a worthy heir.
Mom’s main task is to form the correct male role based on admiration, respect and care for a woman. From an early age, teach to treat the opposite sex with reverence: to give way in transport, to hold the door in front of the girls. More often ask your son for help: carry bags, throw out the trash, peel potatoes. Let him feel like your support and get used to helping. But in order not to raise a sissy, you need something else.
If dad is a workaholic and his son rarely sees him, he should at least know what he is doing, visit the office. An example of courage can be a grandfather, an uncle, a coach in the sports section, a teacher at a school. Find someone the guy will look up to. And so that this person not only likes you, but also the son strives to communicate with him.
Some mothers think that cleaning or helping in the kitchen is a woman’s business. There is no gender division here. The boy needs to be taught to cook, to keep the room in order, to serve himself. Then he will not treat his future wife like a housekeeper.
Let him fill the bumps in order to realize the consequences of his actions. Try not to go overboard with control, give the opportunity to show initiative, make decisions. The son is more important than the daughter, to let go of himself in time. The sooner you do this, the sooner he will become independent.
Don’t be too strict just because your son is a future man. Boys are even more vulnerable and vulnerable than girls. They need an understanding mom. Feeling your support, he will become more confident in himself.
5. Freedom to express emotions
You can’t say, “Don’t cry, men don’t cry.” To drive feelings inside is dangerous for mental health, you can become neurotic. In addition, if you forbid to show feelings, a biscuit will grow, indifferent to the problems and pain of others.
It is desirable that by the third grade the child gets used to living according to the schedule. A clear daily routine helps to be collected, responsible. These qualities are simply necessary for a man.
Choose team sports that develop agility and determination. It’s great to go hiking together, it’s easy to learn skills in the forest that will come in handy in life. Manual labor ennobles a man. There are interesting circles: robotics, design, modeling. The child will learn to concentrate and follow through.