How to raise a child: the secrets of Maria Lemesheva

As soon as I learned the happy news about pregnancy, I immediately had a lot of questions: how to behave correctly? Is it possible to swim in the pool and do yoga? Will an active lifestyle harm your baby? My doctor reassured me, explaining that expecting a child is not a disease, but a special condition of a woman, which, moreover, can be very pleasant. If there are no health problems, you can and should continue the same lifestyle as before conception.

Until the decree, I was filming live on Channel One, interviewing, going to film premieres and concerts. From the first days of pregnancy, I listened to classical music – at home, in the car, at the conservatory. I am sure that such music lessons did not go unnoticed. I spent the last months of pregnancy at sea. The sun, fresh air, abundance of fruits – all this charged me with health and good mood. But wherever the expectant mother is, whatever she does, the main thing is a sincere desire to bear and give birth to a healthy child. With such a mood, all the changes taking place in the body will be a joy, reminding that the long-awaited moment is getting closer.

The birth of a baby was the happiest and most important event in my life. I felt joy and an incredible surge of strength, it seemed that I could move mountains. When my daughter was 5 months old, I began to go on the air again. Despite rocking the baby all night, I looked great. What’s the secret? In the tremendous love that you find with the appearance of a small creature.

The ability to plan your time is also important. I lived according to my daughter’s regimen. She fell asleep – I lay down next to her, because even half an hour of sleep can relieve fatigue. A backpack for carrying the child also helped: with it you could go to the store, prepare food. As a TV presenter, I always need to look good, in the first months after giving birth, I invited a hairdresser and a nail service master home, and while the baby was asleep, we quickly put on beauty.

Even before the baby arrived, I knew for sure that I would return to work. But then I began to feel a guilt complex that I had to use the services of a nanny. I even had to turn to a specialist for help, who recommended looking at the situation from a different angle. You love your child with all your heart, you want to make his life better. Earning money, you take care of his well-being, buying good baby food, quality things, educational toys. You do not lose your qualifications, and in the future the child will be proud of his mother!

We are constantly in touch with our daughter. She understands that even if mom and dad are not around, we are always ready to talk to her. But on weekends, we have a rule: all the time is devoted to her. We go to theaters, cafes, and the zoo. The main thing is that the child knows: there is time that belongs to him. Then it’s easier to come to an agreement: “Now I’m going to work, I have my own things to do, but when I finish them, we will definitely be together.”

Whatever happens, you cannot hit the child. You need to learn to negotiate. There is, though humorous, but an excellent formula: “blackmail, bribery, provocation.” It acts on the child one hundred percent. The main thing is not to overdo it, so that the upbringing process does not turn into a constant bargaining. It is necessary to explain, to talk to the baby: “You will receive candy after dinner, because there is a rule: sweet after soup.”

It is imperative to praise the baby, talk about love for him. In no case should you call names! I never tell my daughter that she is bad, I always discuss her behavior and emphasize that it was not she who upset me, but her leprosy.

We also have a rule: if she herself honestly confessed to a misconduct, we do not scold her. I am sure it is very important to teach this. Then you understand what is happening in the child’s life, and you manage to take action in time.

Calm speech, classical music, beautiful things – all this lays the foundations for a psychoemotional state. I have been with my daughter since birth – I read fairy tales, sang lullabies. But I am opposed to newfangled trends, when a child is taught the Chinese language from 2-3 years old, enrolled in all kinds of circles. I believe that the most important thing is good health. I plan to start getting involved in some serious business when my daughter is about 5 years old. I highly recommend mothers not to torment the child, not to deprive him of his childhood. He still has a lot of time to spend reading books, let him run and play a lot.

The topic of modern gadgets is being actively discussed now. I believe that it is impossible to completely ban what has become the norm. But in no case should everything be left to chance. It is necessary to explain to the little man: “You played a little, now let’s draw.” I also uploaded educational programs to the tablet. So now, when my daughter takes it, she does not just play, but is engaged. We have a rule: we watch two cartoons and go to read. She herself tells me when the cartoons are coming to an end and it’s time to take up the book.

I am sure that a baby from an early age should know such words as “no”, “no”, “shame”. But it is very important not only to prohibit something, but to explain the meaning of the restriction. Already now my daughter knows that you cannot eat a lot of sweets, since sweets are unhealthy. I also explained that chips and soda are not helpful. As a result, she is quite calm about the bowl of sweets and other harmful “delicacies”, because she believes me. Everyone in our house adheres to the principles of a healthy diet, so she has no temptations.

The most important thing in prohibitions is the example of relatives. If the kid sees that at home everyone speaks quietly and calmly, does not swear and do not fight, then he will quickly understand that, for example, his desire to fight (and in crumbs it inevitably arises in the process of knowing their strengths and capabilities) is wrong. After all, none of his loved ones does this.