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Hello, dear readers of the site! Gynophobia (feminophobia, gynophobia) is a pathological fear of women and girls. Today we will analyze the causes, symptoms, and methods of dealing with this fear. So, are you ready?
What is it like?
Occurs regardless of gender. But basically the strong half of humanity is horrified in relation to the beautiful.
Sometimes this disorder takes the form of misogyny, when anyone who finds herself next to such a person experiences all the “charms” of his aggression.
The life of a gynophobe is, in fact, quite painful and limited. Just imagine, he is not able to build high-quality and close relationships with those who could attract him, and with whom he would really be happy together.
He doesn’t just get a job. In the modern world, a woman can be found in any profession. Where before she was not even allowed to be a cleaning lady.
Accordingly, he will certainly not be able to perform high-quality work duties.
Once in the store, he can not always make purchases. But what if then you have to cross paths with the cashier, talk to her, give money?
The family is also difficult. What about mother, grandmother, aunt, sister? And avoiding them, conflicting, there is a risk of becoming lonely, almost an outcast in your own home.
And what if, for example, a man of a heterosexual orientation, that is, representatives of the same sex are not attracted?
How to arrange an acquaintance with a girl if the very thought that you have to communicate with her causes horror or a fit of rage? How can he satisfy his need for intimacy, both sexually and emotionally?
So this kind of phobia is quite difficult and requires the mandatory inclusion of specialists for a cure. Otherwise, life will really look like one continuous test. Not eligible for a prize.
Evidence
Women themselves are trying in every possible way to destroy in themselves any manifestations of belonging to the weaker sex. They dress only in trousers, cut their hair short, and choose rough professions that require hard physical labor.
That is, outwardly it can be difficult to recognize what kind of person appeared before you and how to address him.
In general, defining gynecophobia is quite simple. There are a number of signs that will prompt the idea that not everything is in order for anyone, even a person who is completely unaware of phobias.
Psychological symptoms of manifestation
- Feeling embarrassed. Not necessarily a person feels only horror, she can be banally embarrassed, embarrassed and confused at the sight of the fair sex. She does not make eye contact when communicating with girls, tries to keep her distance, unable to find the right words, and so on.
- Obsessive Compulsive Disorder Syndrome, also known as OCD, Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder. For example, if you had to touch the door handle that the girl was holding on to, she would wash her hands for about an hour. So that in no case not a single bacterium remains on his body. In general, he will come up with rituals with the help of which he will try to reduce the level of anxiety, calm himself.
- Aggressiveness. It happens that feminophobes are not shy, but on the contrary, they become furious at the sight of a woman. They seek to humiliate, insult and cause suffering, pain. It doesn’t matter if he knows her or not. This is how an inferiority complex manifests itself, when a person seeks to exalt himself at the expense of another. That is, he belittles him in order to feel his power.
Physiological symptoms
- Hand tremor, impaired coordination of movements. They become edgy, chaotic, clumsy, and at times funny.
- Increased sweating, even if the meeting happened on the street in sub-zero temperatures.
- Head spinning from excitement, loss of consciousness is quite likely.
- Uncontrolled ejaculation, regardless of whether there are prerequisites for sexual intercourse or not. And also urination. He is a person of surprise and anxiety who really runs the risk of «making» his pants.
- Change in skin color. The face may look deathly pale, or vice versa, covered with thick redness.
- There is shortness of breath, the heart beats strongly, blood pressure rises and the pulse quickens.
- Diarrhea, with fear, a natural desire is triggered — to empty the stomach so that the flight is successful against the backdrop of lightening the body weight.
- Insomnia and other types of sleep disorders.
Causes
Relationship with mother
The most common cause that provokes the development of gynecophobia is a despotic, authoritarian and cruel, aggressive mother.
If she raises a girl, she projects hatred for her mother onto other representatives of the weaker sex. Trying to «kill» in himself all the similarities with the parent.
Therefore, he chooses men’s clothing, prefers to be friends only with boys, engage in aggressive sports and is disgusted by everything pink, beautiful and delicate.
If such an imperious lady brings up a son, then she nurtures in him hatred for those like her. The child has no right to show anger towards “such a deity”, and the intrapersonal conflict makes itself felt.
That is, I hate and fear the person I love and to whom I owe my existence. It is impossible to carry such intensely charged feelings (horror, anger) inside oneself for a long time, they must be “dumped” at least somewhere.
That’s when the image of the mother is projected onto all women. They want to be humiliated, or vice versa, to beware, so that, God forbid, not to relive what happened in childhood again.
Usually in such families where the mother dominates, the father is meek, gentle and caring. Since the husband’s niche is occupied, paradoxically, by his wife, he has to occupy what is free.
Or avoid contact and conflict, for example, through addiction to alcohol, virtual games, and so on.
By the way, a child, watching how his father obeys, endures humiliation and shows a willingness to sacrifice anything in order not to be touched — he appropriates a similar model of behavior for himself.
Negative experience
Fear of women can also manifest itself after experiencing rejection, broken relationships, divorce, failed sexual contact, and so on.
Then in the future, with each attempt to meet or communicate, negative memories will pop up in memory.
Which, in principle, will gradually lead to the fact that a person will consciously avoid the company of beautiful ladies.
Education
Again, back to childhood. If parents are disappointed with the gender of their child, then they will subconsciously, and in some cases consciously broadcast to him that he did not live up to their expectations.
For example, a girl may hear something like: “Now, if you were born a boy, you would be successful, or strong and smart. You would be given mathematics easily and physics. I would teach you how to drive a car and give away my business.”
Or the boy is constantly reproached for behaving like a girl, possessing qualities of character that are not inherent in the future defender, and so on. That is, they form a feeling of superiority over a woman.
Pointing out that she is not worthy to be called a man, and it is a shame to be like her. Moreover, to have some common affairs and so on.
For more information about what other causes of phobias exist, as well as how it is possible to diagnose and overcome them, you will learn from the article dedicated directly to this topic.
Aftermath
Phobias provoke the development of depression, which threatens to become protracted, with periods of acute desire to commit suicide. They isolate from society, which is why a person is literally left alone with his fears.
And then degradation, that is, the gradual loss of acquired skills and knowledge, and serious health problems. You will learn more about what degradation is and how to deal with it in this article.
But this is not the worst. A study was conducted in one of the psychiatric clinics in Russia. Or rather, an examination of the state of individuals who committed the murder and were declared insane.
So, it turned out that more than half of the maniacs who took the lives of women directly suffered from gynecophobia.
They sought to leave their victims unconscious, so that when they “disconnected”, they would no longer pose a danger. And then they committed sexual violence.
After all, there is a need, and satisfying it with a living girl, or who is conscious and with memory, is insanely disturbing, right up to fainting.
Forms of manifestation and variations
The feeling of fear appears directly:
- Seeing pregnant women. There are fantasies that her stomach will burst, and the fetus itself will eat her from the inside. It is more typical for girls who are terribly afraid of getting pregnant. By the way, against this background, they can really show symptoms of infertility. That is, despite unprotected intercourse, conception will not occur. But this is in extreme and very rare cases.
- Before intercourse. Which is basically impossible to commit or complete. Guys, by the way, are not able to control the process of ejaculation. When so much anxiety rises just when communicating with a girl that, without even having time to touch her, he experiences premature ejaculation.
- When thoughts arise about the need to meet a woman, talk to her, accidentally touch, and so on.
- It happens that horror appears only in front of powerful ladies, for example, the boss, mother, wife. In general, those who took the reins of government into their own hands and indicate how he needs to live, work and breathe in principle. And it happens that only in front of the beautiful, next to whom he feels like a complete nonentity. Or full, young, virgin, and so on.
Treatment
As you could understand, this disorder is quite severe and dangerous not only for health, but for life in general. Therefore, you should definitely contact a number of specialists. That is, to a psychotherapist and a psychiatrist. To receive comprehensive and qualified treatment.
It is unlikely that you will be able to overcome your male fears on your own. If only because you will not always be able to realize your reactions to the fair sex. Considering them faithful and rational, and the girls themselves are a fiend.
In addition, the psychiatrist will prescribe medications that will help relieve general anxiety, tension, improve sleep and cheer you up.
Thanks to a psychotherapist, you will understand where feminophobia originates from and get rid of the extra burden that you carry in your soul.
Completion
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The material was prepared by a psychologist, Gestalt therapist, Zhuravina Alina