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They have everything “sorted out”. They move from goal to goal, not really noticing what is happening along the way. And rarely live a truly rich and varied life. All this is about people who lack lightness. Perhaps you are similar to them?
1. You never have time for family and friends.
When loved ones need you, are you always available? Are you in touch? What would they answer to this question?
Perhaps you are one of those parents who leave for work early in the morning, and return late after midnight – solely for the sake of “so that the children have all the best.” Yes, such people really often work in important and responsible work, but the trouble is that they are never around when their children need them. Even if they have highly qualified nannies or loving grandmothers.
Or maybe you are that friend with whom it is impossible to talk even for five minutes, looking eye to eye – during this time you will definitely be distracted by the phone: “this is at work”, “I’m in a second.”
If you can’t find time to reflect on your life, talk heart to heart with friends, spend an evening with your family, you may be taking things too seriously.
2. You do not give yourself the right to make a mistake
Do you think that you should always strive for the ideal? That you can’t get out of the schedule, and even more so “hit your face in the dirt”? And at the same time you are not a heart surgeon, not a pilot or another person whose actions depend on other people’s lives? Most likely, you are a perfectionist, and such people find it difficult to enjoy life.
3. You cannot forgive others for their shortcomings.
Perhaps you are one of those people who breaks down on subordinates or literally boils when colleagues make a mistake. It may be different: you are an unrestrained parent who is able to “pour” a child for a low grade or bad behavior.
Do you really think that only others are to blame for everything? Of course, they could play a role in what is happening, but what if the problem is that your bar is too high? Maybe it’s time to take a deep breath and try to “let go” of the situation – the one that caused your anger, and those that will follow it more than once?
4. You don’t have a very good sense of humor
Do you sometimes not fully understand what others are laughing at? Do the interlocutors at least sometimes have to explain to you what the meaning of the joke is, to decipher the irony? Do you find all the jokes hurtful, especially when they are about you?
Perhaps the point again is that you are too serious. But, as the famous movie character said, “a smart face is not yet a sign of intelligence. All the stupid things on Earth are done with this facial expression.
5. You do not know how to enjoy the little things
Do you notice what is happening around you: weather changes, a beautiful sunset, dew; people, small signs of attention on their part; the smile of a passer-by? Perhaps you are so focused on the “big goal” that the tiny steps that bring you closer to it do not seem worthy of joy to you?
Life does not consist of only global goals and achievements. Life is what happens to us here and now: with whom we woke up in the morning, what we ate for breakfast, what was the taste of our morning coffee, how our day went, what thoughts and feelings aroused in us the events of which it consisted.
Think about it, is it time to reconsider your attitude to life? Just please don’t take this task too seriously.