More scandals? Sideways glances at each other? Reluctance to talk and even be present nearby? And so I want a calm, happy family life … Both are always to blame for conflicts, and there are no right ones. Somewhere it is necessary to be flexible of one of the halves, to yield in something, to ask for forgiveness. The main thing is to do it on time and correctly. So let’s talk about how to build relationships in the family.
Not everything is always good
The first thing you should understand is that there are no couples who do not fight. This is fine. You are two different people who have to get along with each other, get used to, endure other people’s bad habits, put up with something. However, there is no point in aggravating the conflict that has arisen. There is always a solution, but first you need to understand what caused it. Perhaps tiredness at work, something going wrong, lack of attention, feeling unwell… The list could go on forever. But there are a few points that will suit many cases.
How to improve relations with your husband if there was a discord?
Here are just a few proven tips that will help you painlessly get out of a conflict situation. Depending on the temperament and desire of the spouses to maintain a warm relationship, this list can be supplemented by other equally effective tips. An experienced psychologist specializing in family relationships will be able to suggest what exactly and when went wrong.
- The best opportunity to understand what to do and how to behave, talk with your soulmate, find out in a calm conversation what is happening between you. In no case do not translate everything into a new quarrel, even if your man is quick-tempered. But be prepared for the fact that you can hear something that you really do not like. If you realize that you can not resist discontent, gently translate the topic, invite him to the table.
- Attention. Men retain a childish perception of reality much longer than women. Under the burden of responsibility and problems, they urgently need obvious manifestations of care, affection, warmth, and this is often not enough in family life. Either homework, or classes with a child, or feeling unwell … Find some time for your loved one, give him a feeling of comfort and a reliable rear.
- Interest and good mood. Show that you care. Ask him how he feels, how was the day at work, meet him, be happy for him, smile, let him rest at home.
How to improve relations with your wife if you feel that tension reigns between you?
- A woman remains a woman anyway. She needs love. Turn off your selfishness, show that you are ready to listen to her, hug, kiss (not put to bed!), Let your wife feel that you need her.
- Present. Fortunately or not, women love gifts, especially if they are given just like that. No need to wait for some event, holiday, just make a surprise. Of course, she can react like this: «trying to make amends?». Answer honestly that you want to please her, and at the same time build relationships.
- Give her a day off. Take care of her, let her not do household chores, take on these responsibilities for at least a day, keep the child busy with something, cook dinner. Make her feel that you care.
Attention relatives!
The most important thing in a family conflict is not to turn it into a civil war between two families. Try not to use parents and other relatives as parliamentarians and prosecutors. And in no case do not blackmail your spouse with children! Believe me, such behavior does not contribute to reconciliation in any way, on the contrary, you risk making enemies among your closest and dearest people. When the conflict is over, it will be very difficult to regain the trust of the older generation in you.
These are completely simple rules that will help your happiness to firmly settle in the house. And even without conflict, it is recommended to perform them from time to time.
However, there are other methods that have not been described here, especially when the situation in the family is on the verge of divorce. In this case, you can contact experienced professionals. Believe me, there is nothing terrible and reprehensible in going to a psychologist. This only proves once again that you are ready to try all the ways to save the family.