How to get rid of shyness?

I have a big problem. How can you get rid of shyness? I don’t know why, but I am very shy, I don’t even communicate well with relatives, because I am shy of them. Help me please!

With pleasure! The first step towards solving a problem is recognizing the problem and finding a solution. If you really want to find ways to «get rid of embarrassment», I’ll tell you. I will tell you many and different ways, and you choose what suits you personally.

The first thing you must definitely tell yourself is that sometime you know how to be shy, and sometime you know how not to be shy. Yes? Attention! Are you not shy about walking down the street, eating, maybe doing sports or painting? This is true? Yes. In some situations, you know how to behave confidently and freely. So, it is more accurate to put the task as follows: how can you expand the zone of your free and confident behavior?

Most often, we are embarrassed to communicate with people when we consider ourselves “not interesting to anyone”, “insignificant”, “small” people. And what to do with it? There is only one answer: work on yourself. A “successful”, “bright”, “purposeful” person will not be “shy to communicate” — that means you need to become such a person step by step! I suggest you do this in several ways.

Develop your strengths

1. Look at yourself from the outside. Highlight those qualities in yourself that you yourself like. Write them down.

2. Be glad that you already have a lot of good and interesting things.

3. Keep a diary of success. Every day, write down your achievements during the day in the Progress Diary. In the diary, reflect everything: your personal successes, the results of the day, good luck.

Form additional abilities

1. Determine the qualities that you would like to develop in yourself further. Write them down.

2. Under each quality, write down habits, working on which you will develop the additional virtues you need. Work on building these habits.

3. Find the person(s) who have these qualities best developed. Model (try to repeat) his (their) words, behavior, deeds.

Boost your self-esteem

1. Compare yourself only with yourself (yesterday, for example). Never compare yourself to other people.

2. Connect more with positive, confident people who support you. Help the people around you, positively encourage them.

3. Engage in work or any other activity that brings you joy and pleasure. Live your life, make your own decisions. And — act!

Yes, if you decide to deal with yourself purposefully, step by step, then get up on the Distance. And at the Distance, the most important exercises for you will be: “Diary of success”, “Diary of emotions”, “I don’t play the victim”, “The volume of the planned result” and “I am the owner”. You will succeed. By doing each time step by step, you can go the longest way!