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Hello, dear readers of the site about self-development and personal growth! Nomatophobia is the panicky fear of addressing people by their first names.
And today we will look at what signs can be used to diagnose the presence of this phobia, and also why it occurs.
What is it like?
Nomatophobia at first glance seems to be a completely ridiculous, if not insignificant phobia.
But in fact, it can bring a lot of trouble to its owner. Who loses the thread of the conversation and the course of his thoughts, because he worries and worries about how to address the interlocutor.
Some individuals avoid communication altogether, just to avoid getting into situations that cause a panic attack.
This disorder is quite common, most of the world’s population has difficulty pronouncing names.
By the way, sometimes they even pronounce their own, barely pronouncing and squeezing out words. Therefore, as you understand, meeting a new person is another torture for them.
Plus, there are cases when the fob is not even able to name the parents not just by name, but to say “mom”, “dad”. So in the family circle he has to manage only with the help of «hey», «you» and so on.
Symptoms
Fear of calling by name, as already mentioned, provokes the occurrence of a panic attack. In which the horror is so intense that a person simply begins to suffocate.
His breathing becomes shallow and rapid, which causes the level of oxygen in the blood to rise so much that it leads to the opposite effect — dizziness and suffocation.
In this case, you should breathe either into your palms or into a paper bag. This method is often shown in American films.
Also colitis in the chest, which in symptoms resembles a heart attack. This is confusing, because thoughts of a heart attack arise against the backdrop of stress and impending death.
The legs give way, there is a tremor of the hands, sometimes nervous tics, but they mostly occur later, as the person calms down and relaxes. But it happens that some muscle on the face actively twitches directly at the moment of panic.
Severe fear causes nausea, vomiting, and even loss of consciousness. A nomatophobe in the company of people usually sweats profusely, unable to concentrate on the conversation, and even more so, to enjoy it.
Naturally, his tension is noticeable to others. And if they turn to him in order to find out how he feels, while calling him by name, then he may well take flight.
Since he will not be able to cope with his emotions, as well as control behavior.
Causes
Fear of making a mistake
Fear can arise if a person usually does not remember other people’s names well. Therefore, fearing to make a mistake and offend the interlocutor, he will simply address him as you or you, sometimes giving some kind of affectionate names, something like sweetheart, bunny, and so on.
If you have nomatophobia precisely for this reason, it doesn’t matter, the recommendations from this article will help you not only strengthen your memory. But also to train to memorize the names of completely random people in your life with whom you only met once or twice.
fear of intimacy
Have you heard that for a person usually the most pleasant word is his name? When we address someone not impersonally, but directly, this reduces the distance, which allows us to form affection, closeness.
So, there are people who are terribly afraid to get close to someone, because they got a negative experience and lived through a lot of pain. And now they prefer loneliness, in every possible way avoiding any attempt to show interest in them and other feelings.
They are satisfied with only formal communication, thanks to such an illusory distance, they do not feel anxiety that they have gone too far and now they will again have to face despair and pain.
Heredity
If close relatives had any kind of mental disorders, then it is likely that some of them will begin their development, let’s say, by inheritance.
Therefore, the genetic factor plays an important role. As well as the process of education. If a child observed oddities in the behavior of a mother or father, he could well adopt them, considering them to be quite normal.
After all, we initially receive experience and knowledge about how it is worth living and behaving from adults who are involved in our upbringing.
Treatment
Despite the fact that usually nomatophobia does not lead to deadly consequences, it is still necessary to consult a psychotherapist.
A phobic disorder is, let’s say, a mental illness and it requires special treatment, diagnosis and control.
Let it go on its own, expecting that someday everything will work out by itself — it’s not worth it. Since, first of all, health suffers, and the quality of life deteriorates. And delaying treatment is also not recommended.
Usually, a psychiatrist prescribes a number of medications that help relieve anxiety, improve sleep, if you suffer from insomnia and nightmares.
Improve, or at least stabilize mood, because if depression occurs due to exhaustion of the nervous system, a person simply loses the desire to live.
A number of emotions seem to become inaccessible to living, they are replaced by apathy, impotence, pain and the feeling that it will never be good.
Therefore, in the process of therapy, a fob can receive support, as well as the opportunity to relieve excess stress and explore why it was nomatophobia that began to develop in him.
Completion
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Every day we share new information that helps not only to develop our horizons, give answers to some important questions, but also improve the quality of life, become conscious and harmonious.
For example, we have selected 100 questions that will help you get to know another person better and get closer to him, if there is such a desire.
They will help you out in moments when you do not know what to talk about with your interlocutor, because you are embarrassed, afraid or at a loss.
After all, how to deal with nomatophobia if you do not try to build close, trusting relationships?
Take care of yourself and be happy!
The material was prepared by a psychologist, Gestalt therapist, Zhuravina Alina