While some believe that love is not given to everyone and a happy marriage is just a matter of chance, others take the situation into their own hands. So did our today’s heroine. After the long-awaited wedding, the woman published a plan that helped her meet her lover.
Blogger, producer and creator of the speaker bureau Elena Grishneva posted on Facebook , in which she told how, after a long time, she managed to successfully marry.
The woman set herself a clear goal, broke it into several tasks and confidently moved towards what she wanted. So, first of all, Elena decided to free herself from all negative attitudes regarding marriage and relationships.
To do this, she:
- Read bloggers on relevant topics;
- For two months I went through the author’s program on seven steps on the path to personal happiness and other women’s trainings;
- I worked with a psychologist for a year. “Many tears were shed, moments were opened, experienced and accepted. At some point, I even decided to get checked out and received a mental health report from a psychiatrist. I sincerely did not understand why I was alone, ”Elena shares her impressions of therapy. In addition, the woman worked with the inner child;
- Passed constellations according to Hellinger. “It made an impression and inspired,” the author of the post emphasized. She noted that her research on happy couples and highlighting common signs of love in healthy relationships even led her to write an article;
- She turned to a professional matchmaker, who asked her to do special exercises: for example, write 100 qualities of a future man;
- Listened to motivational speakers;
- Went to church. “For the first time I went to the Matrona of Moscow, asked her. At the exit, everyone was given a rose, it was very touching, ”recalls Elena;
- Did visceral massage;
- I consulted with an astrologer-numerologist.
In addition, Elena consciously approached the choice of films and books, which, she believes, also helped her find happiness in her personal life. Of the films, the woman advised Amy Redford’s “Guitar”.
As for books, in her list you can find:
- Robin Norwood. “Women Who Love Too Much”
- Colin Tipping. “Radical Forgiveness”
- Irina Mlodik. “Life on loan. How to get rid of psychological addiction
- Jen Sincero. “NO SY. Be confident in your abilities and don’t let doubts stop you from moving forward.”
- Edith Eva Eger. “Vybor” – and other, no less worthy and interesting publications.
“I want to say thank you to those whom I didn’t mention, but who supported me with their soul and wished to meet my beloved,” Elena concluded her story.
Users actively responded in the comments to such an unusual approach to finding a groom. Someone praised the author of the post for perseverance and wished the newly-made family happiness: “This is aspiration! Interestingly, women who have been wanting to marry happily for years, make at least a tenth of such efforts? I believe that all your efforts were made with ease and passion. It is not difficult and not hard, when you want and go to your dream.
But, of course, there were those who did not share the joy of the author of the post. “Something I felt sorry for your husband”, “I’m afraid to imagine what they will do for a divorce. Voodoo dolls and sacrifices?” Some commentators sneered.
Be that as it may, Elena’s approach to solving this issue cannot but inspire. If you want to find a relationship and find a family, you should not wait for the weather by the sea. And instead of complaining about the lack of suitors and the unfair world, it is better to work with yourself and your attitudes. After all, we are ready to invest a lot of effort and resources in career development, raising children and favorite hobbies. And finding a partner and establishing a personal life is clearly no less worthy goal.