How to get an orgasm

Orgasm not only provides emotional release, but also supports women’s health. “During arousal, blood rushes to the genitals. If there was no orgasm, it stagnates, which can become a background for the development of various disorders, explains gynecologist Dmitry Lubnin, author of the book “An Honest Conversation with a Russian Gynecologist.” — How to get an orgasm? Of course, the best way is to find a sexually literate man. But these, alas, are much less than women who want to experience the pleasure of sex. Therefore, it is safer to help yourself. Below are a few recommendations.

1. Dive into the sexy theme

The more you think about sex, the stronger your feelings. Read erotic literature, watch movies, wear seductive underwear, use other explicit details in clothes (let them be hidden from others, most importantly, you know about them).

2. Treat your genitals as a source of pleasure

To accept this, study them carefully. While «between the legs» there is a clamp, stiffness and constraint, sexual pleasure will be your infrequent guest.

3. Study yourself

Masturbate for a long time. For many women, this is the only way to develop sensuality and experience how they can get an orgasm not only on their own, but also during intercourse. The purpose of masturbation is not to quickly get an orgasm, but to learn how to fully arouse. It will be good to recreate the scenario of sexual intercourse with the help of «adult toys». Go through all the stages of arousal, feel how the entrance to the vagina narrows, how the sensitivity of the G-spot changes. Then, during intercourse with a partner, the body will remember the sensations experienced earlier and reproduce the correct reactions. In addition, they will appear faster.

4. Talk to a partner

Tell your partner three things.

• First: you are excited longer than him. Even if a lubricant appears and the labia swells up, this does not mean that you are truly aroused. It is correct if a man does not enter the penis until you get the feeling that there should already be something in the vagina.
• Second: ask him to explore your erogenous zones with you. It is better to do this with your eyes closed (tactile sensitivity increases) and only when you are excited.
• Third: tell him what words, actions, environment excite you, and what extinguishes desire. The ability to talk about what worries you and hear the other allows you to successfully solve the problem of anorgasmia. If confidential conversations do not help, then you should contact a psychologist.

Emotional component

Before intimacy, a woman needs to allow herself to enjoy sex. So she will give the instincts the opportunity to get out of the control of consciousness. In this case, all the reactions of the body will work smoothly and fully. And the process of excitement will not turn into a confrontation between the natural reactions of the body and the mind. Get it done by any means possible: champagne, music, candles, exciting lingerie, new surroundings, and so on.