How to establish and maintain a format in a relationship

Format is a form of behavior that is mandatory for a certain range of situations.

This is a specially set behavior and part of the usually natural reactions that are proposed to be made conscious, controlled and in line with family, corporate or other, public and social standards.

There are as many different types of format as situations that are important for people, primarily situations of interpersonal communication, where special behavior and special responses are required. This is a business and friendly format, a personal and official format, a civil and military format, a comic and responsible format, a format for discussing difficult issues, a format for communicating on an equal footing and a format for communicating with the Elders.

The format is not born by itself, the format is established and maintained by those smart people who understand its meaning. As long as the format isn’t set, the interactions can be great and what they should be, but they’re held together by an emotional attitude, not a format. And relationships are a living thing, unstable, unstable, relationships are affected by mood and well-being, and sooner or later one of the partners begins to leave the spontaneous format, interact according to new, and not according to the previous rules, which may not suit the other partner.

Setting a format is the most effective and reliable means for building civilized relationships, but this is possible only at the beginning of a relationship and subject to a certain interest of a person in communicating with you. You can set the format in different ways, the main thing is to react, designate “news” in relationships (interactions), express protest, insist on the previous version of interaction, if necessary, discuss what happened.

It is very important to start setting the format when the relationship is just taking shape, when people are still trying on each other. Later, when people get used to each other and to the relationships that have already developed, it is much more difficult to change something in the relationship. Yes, it is still possible to fix a lot, but it is more difficult. Especially in a relationship between a man and a woman, it is important to use the time when people are in love with each other: this is the time when people are ready to change, when they look like plasticine and you have the opportunity to “sculpt” another person into the format that is important to you.

When a man courts a woman, he is ready for a lot and “building” him is easy. Golden time! While the girl is passionate, she is also amenable to formatting. Later, no more. After — discussion, disassembly, accustoming, which is always longer and more difficult. The format of the relationship must be set initially: it doesn’t matter if we are talking about jealousy, gu.e.sti or egocentrism.

If you love a worthy person, you will definitely use this opportunity at least to help your loved one start behaving the way he himself has long dreamed of: go in for sports, watch how he dresses and how he looks, start paying attention to their manners and just act like a really loving person. This is beautiful, start expecting this from a person, teach your loved one to do this — and he will later thank you sincerely.

Adult and educated people, when they understand the need for a format, accustom themselves to it on their own. It is more difficult with ill-mannered adults and children, accustoming them to the format is a special job. And even when a partner is accustomed to a partner, the task still remains to maintain the format, focusing on it and giving it positive reinforcement.

Yes, it’s a hassle, but it’s really important for anyone who cares about quality relationships. Building a high-level relationship in the first place is easier than first resolving the disrespect in the relationship and then trying to fix it. If you don’t follow the format, if, in fact, you accustom yourself to the fact that you can be treated anyhow, without respect, then it’s already more difficult to change the habit that has arisen: people begin to perceive your demand for self-respect as an expression of your sick ambitions, your bad mood or screw it all up. Not following the format is the fault not only of the party that does not care about its format of behavior, but also of the party that allows the other party to inappropriate behavior.

The format helps very well in educating both yourself and your partner — in weaning off insults, accustoming to reasonable communication and other good habits. When children allow themselves to treat their parents without respect, their mother only as a girlfriend, their father as an empty place, the family ends. When a loving woman loves, she forgets about herself and forgives everything to a man, but allowing a man not to follow the format, she only undermines the relationship that is being built. Similarly, when a man allows a woman to behave inappropriately, he opens the door to the destruction of the relationship. See how it happens and don’t let it happen again. At least for the love of women — do not allow! Learn to build a format in relations between a man and a woman — this is in the interests of both parties.