Despite the fact that today we know much more about the mechanisms of pleasure than even a decade ago, many women still find it difficult to achieve orgasm during vaginal sex. Let’s talk about four techniques that contribute to this.
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Although less than 50% of women get an orgasm solely from penetration, penetration is still a rather pleasant process. And it can be made even more desirable. As part of a recent sexological study, experts interviewed 3000 US women aged 18 to 93. The experts were interested in what techniques they use to enjoy vaginal penetration most often.
As a result, sexologists have identified four methods that are used by the majority of the women surveyed:
1. Hip rotation
About 90% of respondents said that during vaginal penetration they resort to movements that include rotation, raising or lowering the pelvis and hips. Thus, women are able to independently regulate the position of the penis.
2. Deep doesn’t mean good
Approximately 84% of women said that deep penetration dulls sensations. According to them, much more pleasant is superficial penetration, in which the penis does not move deeper than the entrance to the vagina.
3. Pumping
About 76% of respondents noted that they increase pleasure during vaginal penetration through “wiggle”: when the penis rubs against the inside of the clitoris, while remaining completely in the vagina, and not leaving it.
4. Connect fingers
Finally, approximately 70% said that they still add other techniques to penetration, in particular, stimulation of the clitoris with a finger or a sex toy.
Perhaps the results of this study did not lead to a revolution in the world of sex. Nevertheless, sexologists are convinced that such simple techniques will help women understand what they really want. They will also give you the opportunity to make penetrating sex not a duty, but a source of intense pleasure.
“In recent years, we have been constantly seeing the positive contribution that sexual pleasure makes to the physical, social and emotional well-being of women throughout their lives,” the authors of the study write. “For example, sexual satisfaction helps reduce stress and anxiety in women. And in some cases, it even helps them get rid of depression.”
“Women need to understand that they have the same right to enjoy penetrative sex as men. After all, women are often taught to be passive during penetration – it seems as if we are just a tool for men to get an orgasm. Often we do not even enjoy this process.
That is why it is so important to understand that we are still able to be in charge of our pleasure, take control in sex and be active – move our hips, bend over or sway, ”says Kate Balestrieri, psychologist and certified sex therapist.
She adds that if a woman wants to remain in a passive position, there is nothing wrong or wrong with that either. “However, many of us really want to take more responsibility for what is happening,” the expert concludes.