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- 1. Recognize that the relationship has run its course.
- 2. Ask your partner to respect your personal space.
- 3. Respect your partner’s boundaries
- 4. If you’re ready to reconnect, don’t focus on the past.
- 5. Deal with mutual claims
- 6. Consider Seeking a Therapist or Coach
- 7. Make the breakup less painful for both of you.
- 8. Hold back your pride
- 9. Forgiveness can take time – be patient
- 10. No matter how hard it is, express your gratitude.
Reporting a breakup through messengers is a kind of cowardice. To stop getting in touch without answering your partner’s calls and messages is even cruel. A life coach writes about how to part with dignity while maintaining respect for the feelings of another.
It takes a certain amount of courage to end a relationship tactfully. “Try to do it in such a way that when you accidentally meet with a former partner, you don’t look away shamefacedly, but could smile at each other, remembering the happy time spent together,” advises life coach Ora Nadrich.
1. Recognize that the relationship has run its course.
It seems obvious, but, alas, in our time, many simply disappear without explanation. When talking to your partner, try to do it with love. If you are in pain or are overcome by anger and resentment, pause. Say that you need time to sort out your feelings. Do not hurry.
2. Ask your partner to respect your personal space.
Be clear about your boundaries, but try to do it tactfully. To begin with, you can say that you can talk when (and if) you feel you want and are ready.
3. Respect your partner’s boundaries
If your partner has also set boundaries, don’t break them. Even when you are hurt and confused. You probably expect the same attitude from him.
4. If you’re ready to reconnect, don’t focus on the past.
It is very easy to start remembering past grievances and unpleasant incidents. Don’t give in to this temptation, don’t throw accusations. Focus on the present moment, strive for clarity and successful conflict resolution.
5. Deal with mutual claims
If you still think that the partner acted unfairly towards you, then you can calmly talk to him about it. Explain how his behavior made you feel. Ask why he behaved this way and how he would feel in your place.
6. Consider Seeking a Therapist or Coach
If you can’t reach a compromise because of mutual grievances or significant disagreements, try seeking help from a specialist. He will be able to act as a kind of impartial arbiter, help both of you express your feelings and safely end the relationship.
7. Make the breakup less painful for both of you.
Ask your ex what you could do to ease the pain of the breakup. In turn, explain what he could do for you.
8. Hold back your pride
If you feel like you have a lot to apologize for to your ex, don’t let your pride get in the way. Sincere apologies and repentance will help to alleviate the emotional pain that you inflicted on your partner with rash words or actions and ease the process of parting.
9. Forgiveness can take time – be patient
If your ex asks for your forgiveness, but you still have pain and resentment, say directly that it will take time for you, and you hope that you can forgive him in the future.
10. No matter how hard it is, express your gratitude.
If this person has hurt you, you may want to cut them out of your life or even “punish” them by ignoring any attempts they make to communicate. But still, if you finally decide to leave, try, in spite of everything, to thank this person for all the joyful moments spent together.
Practicing mindfulness will help you focus on the present moment, accepting your surroundings with love and without judgment.
“If you can let go of hostility, resentment and judgment, it will be much easier for you to turn this page in your life and move on. By ending a relationship consciously and with warmth, you will open your heart to new love, ”says Ora Nadrich.