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We all want more from life. More money or health, success or fame, friends, time, freedom – each with something of his own. However, there is only one way to get this “own”. First you need to open up the very possibility of getting what you want.
Sad but true: most of us push ourselves into tight limits. We focus on limitations rather than opportunities, spend years sighing, “Oh, if only…” If only we got our dream job, doubled our income, bought a car or an apartment, started dating someone better than our partner (or at least with someone), lost weight, pumped up … Then we would probably have healed much better.
However, this kind of thinking keeps us bogged down. We are treading water. We believe that we do not have what we need, or we do not do enough, or maybe we ourselves are not too good. It makes us desperately jealous of others. And in such a state, it is impossible to find inner peace and a resource in order to start acting and achieve what we dream of.
So how should it be?
It is important to develop an abundance mindset. According to businessman Stephen Covey, only this can open the way to success. Having rejected the framework, we stop narrowing the range of our own capabilities, we get out from under the yoke of fear and anxiety. To achieve this, it is important to act – to form a series of habits in yourself, repeating them day after day.
It’s not about “give away the last shirt” and “go around the world.” However, if you can help someone else, do so. For example, we usually do not need all the things that we have, and we are able to share food, clothes, and even things with others. Helping someone, we will send ourselves a signal that we have enough of everything, that we are already rich.
2. Purposefully enjoy what you have.
We’ve all heard about the importance of being grateful, but for many, it’s just theory. It’s time to put it into practice! By making lists of what we are grateful for, we continue to be in the moment, aware of our “here and now”.
3. Praise others and celebrate their success
Don’t act like a surly Grinch when others succeed. Of course, it’s perfectly normal to feel a tiny stab of envy. But, having recognized it, drive this feeling away. Celebrate with others their victories. If at the same time you do your job conscientiously, it will be your turn to rejoice at your own successes.
4. Set Your Own Goals Without Focusing on Others
Believe me: even if you get what the other dreamed of, it will not bring you satisfaction. Don’t waste your life chasing someone else’s dream. Think about what brings joy and peace to you personally, and formulate a goal based on this knowledge.
5. Decide what you want, but don’t hold on to it too tightly.
Desiring something—a position, a promotion, a relationship, marriage—too passionately, we become overly anxious about the possibility of failure. Anxiety keeps us from doing our best. Go to the goal, but try not to bet everything you have on winning.
6. Pretend like you’ve already achieved what you want.
Yes, the advice is as old as the world, but it really works. For example, if you want to become a calmer person, watch your body language, movements. If you want to move up the career ladder, act like you are already on the right step. This self-confidence will help you open any doors.
7. Remember that you deserve better.
Repeat to yourself as often as possible that you are already good enough, you deserve better, and you can achieve what you want. Especially since it really is.
