Do not thoughtlessly rely on what your feelings tell you.
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You can relate to your inner feelings in different ways. Someone is very interested in feelings, and they bathe in them from morning to evening, forgetting about business. Others are not interested in feelings at all, they treat them like toys for children. Basic strategies: Ignore them. Obey. Use creatively.
. In general, do not pay attention to your inner feelings, use only external feelings and your head. For people with a great head, this is a great strategy, but building relationships, especially with women, requires understanding their feelings. That is, at least their feelings — it is necessary to feel.
. Follow your feelings, make them the leaders of your life. If you have an excellent upbringing, that is, someone (or yourself) has already directed your feelings to you in all the right directions, then this will be great. In other cases, the situation is very alarming: people allow the maximum number of stupid things when they turn off their heads and follow their feelings.
For people who live by (inner) feelings, it is the inner feelings and emotions, and not the mind and plans, that are the main regulator of their behavior. Emotions induce impulsive actions, feelings — directed behavior. Feelings more often live children, not adults, women, not men. Women are attracted by feelings-desires, directed towards feelings-relationships and, as a result, experience feelings-experiences. Men are more likely to think, set goals, develop plans and strive for results. Then think again…
. Make feelings the instruments of your life, put them at your service. The head is the mind, the inner feelings are the servants. Feel your own and others’ state, listen to your sometimes unconscious experience, strengthen the necessary feelings and drive away those that interfere. It is very important that feelings give subtle information about their state or the state of another person, but it is equally important that feelings remain only an instrument, and decisions are made by the head (decisions are made by the mind). Use your feelings to the maximum, but do all this under the control of the mind. Apparently, this strategy is optimal.