Creative criticism and destructive criticism
When is criticism constructive and when is it destructive? Creative criticism is limited to pointing out how to do what needs to be done, completely omitting negative assessments of the child’s personality.
Ten-year-old Larry accidentally spilled a glass of milk at breakfast.
Mother. You are no longer small, but you do not know how to hold a glass! How many times have I told you to be careful!
Father. He has always been clumsy, and will remain so.
Yes, Larry spilled a glass of milk, but caustic ridicule is completely inappropriate here: they can cost parents much more — the loss of filial trust. This is not the time to tell a child what you think of him if he is guilty. In this case, you need to condemn only his act, but not himself.
What to do when a child misbehaves
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