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How to communicate with a teenager to parents: with a girl, with a son
It is often extremely difficult to communicate with your teenage children. They painfully perceive criticism, ignore advice or react violently to it, withdraw into themselves and refuse to communicate. You need to try to maintain trust and remain a friend to your child.
How to communicate with a teenager 12-17 years old
A child at this age is aware of his individuality. He overestimates himself and not for the better. Add hormonal and physical changes to that. The mood changes, and the child himself does not understand why. Neuroses and depression often appear. At this age, fears of communication and complexes also appear.
Kindness and openness are the main rules of communication with a girl.
Talk to your child about sexuality if you don’t want the teenagers on the street to be the teachers. The basic rules of communication are as follows:
- praise your child more often, even for little things;
- be attentive and tactful;
- speak kindly and openly;
- ask more often what is happening in the child’s life;
- do not be offended by monosyllabic answers;
- do not judge and do not be irritated;
- share your plans with them.
Make communication with your child regular, but not intrusive.
Boys in adolescence change their voice to a squeaky or harsh voice. The skin becomes problematic, but he does not know how to take care of it and how to help himself. In addition to acne, the first facial hair appears. Boys get lanky and awkward. At this time, back problems and slouching arise.
Boys are more likely to spend time with friends than with their parents. Your teen thinks they understand him better than you do.
A dad will be of great help, who will support his son. It is important to tell that he is not unique and his father also had similar changes. However, they can be dealt with. It is important to ask about the child’s hobbies and, if possible, help to realize them. You can buy and donate a rocking chair or a new snowboard.
How can parents talk to a girl
The girl is especially tormented by physiological changes: problem skin, oily hair, swelling breasts. It is in the power of a loving mother to explain that this is all temporary and the daughter remains just as beautiful. Pick up the right cosmetics, make an appointment with a beautician. Try to instill a love of sports to get rid of the slouch.
Ask your daughter for advice about her makeup or clothing. Be prepared to hear criticism. However, this is a great excuse to establish contact and have a heart-to-heart conversation.
Please note that you cannot change your child. However, you can change yourself and help him.