You need friends that you want to be like.
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«Tell me who your friends are and I’ll tell you who you are» — yes, it is. Your life, your lifestyle is shaped by your immediate environment.
The amount of your income always tends to the arithmetic mean of the income of your environment. — Interesting tip!
The magnitude of your joys essentially depends on whether people who are significant to you live happily. Joy is contagious!
The number of your problems varies in direct proportion to the number of problems of your relatives and friends. If you are surrounded by problem people, you are the problem. If people around you are light, positive, peaceful and not quarrelsome, able to negotiate, it turns out to be natural for you to behave the same way, in their style.
We choose friends, friends shape us. By changing your own environment, you can change and develop yourself very effectively. At the very least, this needs to be sorted out. In order for your environment to work for you and your life, it is useful to take an inventory of it.
Inventorying your own environment is comparing your idea of who you should be friends with to your actual friends.
Questions for inventory:
- My ideal environment: how much and what kind?
- Friends energetic, reliable, sources of ideas and health, incentives for development?
- My current environment (list…)
- Who are they: empty dreamers, middle peasants, losers, alcoholics? Successful leaders and businessmen, amazing artists, strong-willed athletes, wonderful (future) specialists, wise mothers, talented children?
- Does this match your idea of your ideal environment? Who on your list matches? How much?
- What can I do to make the current environment closer to the ideal one?
- With whom will I become friends, with whom will I become friends, with whom will I change the content of friendship?
- What do you need to change in yourself so that even more worthy and interesting people are attracted to you?
“Friendship is what I am. It’s true. If I’m a whiner and a buzzard, there are other whiners and buzzards around me. Cheerful and businesslike with me — boring and sticky. If you look around and consider friends, you can make a portrait of yourself. You can be horrified and try to eliminate someone decisively. Or, horrified, you can try to eliminate in yourself what feeds the “extra” friendship. And friendship dies by itself: without unnecessary pathos, without bloody fountains from under the scalpel and pain for both sides.