How to calm down before exams or other important events?
You don’t need to calm down at all — a slight excitement before the exam helps. If you get drunk on sedative pills so that nothing else will bother you, there is a high probability that you will be just as calm and stupid on the exam. Light excitement mobilizes and sets up for good mental work.
The simplest recipe is also the most effective: you just need to get down to business. If you have an hour left before the exam, make the most of it. If you walk around doing nothing, you will start to worry. Rewrite the main necessary formulations at this hour — you will worry less. It doesn’t matter how much you learn during this time — but at least you taught, you made the best use of the available time, your conscience will be calm.
By the way, do not forget to get enough sleep: being in good physical shape with a clear head is more important than reading again what you seem to have already read …
If you are worried about the situation due to the fact that you are afraid of the unknown: how is it? what is there ?, then play this exam or interview with one of your friends or relatives, having been in the playing role of both a student and a teacher. It helps. If you have a good imagination, fill it with pictures of success: draw in your imagination how everything goes well, and let the final picture of your victorious finale be especially colorful. You are satisfied, you are happy, everything worked out, cheers!
If suddenly, next to the picture of good luck, pictures of failure, failure, trouble pop up strongly, and you can’t get rid of these thoughts, use the great principle: “If you can’t cope, lead.” Do not run away from the picture of failure, but deal with this situation — is it really so scary? Ask yourself this question seriously … Here, I won’t pass the exam, here, I’ll be late, here we won’t meet — are you sure that this is seriously worthy of the title of “Horror”? Children love to be afraid, and you enter the state of an adult and say to yourself calmly: even in the event of the most unpleasant outcome, all the most important things in life will remain with you. It’s not the end of the world. Everyone will stay alive.
The worst thing that will happen to you if you fail your exam is that you come home and have coffee and a muffin. You have a house and you will have coffee. Please appreciate this and don’t put on a show like you’re being taken out of your life. Learn to distinguish between vital things and transient things. A wise person, unlike a human child, is familiar with real losses, and with them, as a standard, he is able to determine the true magnitude of what happened.
It happens — rarely! — when passing exams means not just an ordinary event, but is connected with building a whole destiny, and even your life or someone else’s. It is clear that this is a completely different conversation, and here read the Declaration on the acceptance of reality. It will definitely help people with a head.
If you suddenly start to panic (anything can happen!), There are at least three keys to help you: tell yourself “Stop!”, calm your breathing, and drink a glass of water. A glass of water is good for the vessels of the brain and distracts, but the main work will be done by focusing on your breathing: a deep breath — a slow exhalation, a deep breath — a slow exhalation … As much as you need. It always helps when you start to worry: breathing with a slow exhalation calms. And the word “Stop!” Said as a command, even better out loud, sobers you up from panic and returns you to self-control. Everything will be fine.
Another important circumstance: sometimes it is difficult to calm down because you turn yourself on, at least you yourself prolong the problem situation. If you start arguing with someone and “turn on”, you will not always have the ability to calm down in time. But changing the topic of conversation is easier. And leaving the room under some pretext (or even just leaving) is much easier and more efficient. We are influenced by the state of the people around us — calm people calm us down, agitated people excite us. If you want to calm down, you can simply change the interlocutor to a more suitable one for you. Another great way is to start admonishing and calming the one who is worried next to you. Obviously, your words will not be as convincing as possible for him, but they definitely work well for you. Calm yourself down.
If the whole body is agitated, two things will help: either vigorous physical activity, or, on the contrary, lie down and relax (if you know how to relax). Sitting and worrying is stupid. Or go for a walk outside, or lie down and relax.
In general, remember: the sooner you go to bed, the better. The morning is wiser than the evening, in the morning you will get up fresh and do new things, leaving everything old behind. When all the hard and bad is gone, only the good remains.
Everything will be fine!
Prospects: if over time you learn to quickly relax, master auto-training, you will always be calm in any situation you need. Useful skill!