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Sometimes one word is enough to destroy our self-confidence. After that, it’s hard to pick yourself up and move forward. How to gain former faith in your strength in just a couple of minutes?
Life is an attraction of ups and downs. If we live at high speed, they quickly replace each other. And we do not have time to prepare for a long time for an important event or to recover from a painful setback. That’s when we need an express boost of self-confidence. But how to get it without the help of others?
Try to apply several scientifically proven techniques – this will help rebuild your mind in a positive way and get rid of destructive reflection. They work instantly, helping in situations where the further development of events largely depends on faith in one’s own strengths – in business, in studies, on the personal front.
1. Assume the winner’s pose and stay in it for 2 minutes
In her TED talk, which has over 30 million views, Harvard University social psychologist Amy Cuddy talks about body language and the transmission of confidence. So, in her recent study, two groups took part – they were all potential applicants.
Feel how you are filled with power. Imagine being an Olympic champion
It turned out that those who took “power poses” before the interview showed a higher percentage of success than those who did not. They also had higher testosterone levels and lower levels of the stress hormone cortisol.
Before any difficult task, practice the “power pose”. You can take it in the morning right after waking up, in the elevator or in front of the bathroom mirror. “Strive to take up as much space as possible for you without losing interior comfort,” advises Amy Cuddy.
Superhero Pose: Stand up straight, shoulders back, chin slightly up, hands on waist, and feet hip-width apart. Feel yourself filling with strength and hold this position for two minutes. Try to breathe deeply and rhythmically. You can also do starfish pose with your arms raised in a V shape. Imagine yourself as an Olympic champion on a pedestal.
2. Imagine yourself many years later
A vivid and detailed idea of what your life will be like in the future helps to overcome the fear of failure. Hal Hershfield, a professor of marketing technology at New York University, asked the participants in his study to imagine what would happen to them in 10 years.
After that, he showed some of the respondents their “aged” images, and then invited everyone, without exception, to become investors in start-up projects. Those who saw their portrait as adults tended to invest twice as often as those who did not. It turned out that by drawing pictures of the future and clearly presenting it, we rather strive to bring it closer and act more actively and decisively.
3. Give thanks to life
This is another way to see new horizons in front of you despite the recent stress. After being fired, divorced and in debt, it was not easy for aspiring business coach and single mother Jen Scalia to get back on her feet and start living from scratch. To do this, she decided to invest in herself and take a number of distance courses in business and personal development, and also performed several practices daily. All together helped her increase the profitability of the training business project from zero to half a million dollars.
When we feel gratitude, we think positively and feel energized.
“My first daily practice was gratitude. Every night I remembered the most wonderful things that happened to me and that I saw in my life. Anything – a waterfall, a compliment from a close friend, a victory in a new project …
Gratitude allows you to focus on the positive things, because we take a lot for granted. When we feel grateful, we think positively and feel energized,” says Jen Scalia.
The next stage of auto-training was gratitude for the things that the woman had yet to receive.
“For example, instead of saying, “I want to have two more new clients this month,” I would say to myself, “I’m so grateful that I now have two more great clients.” Our minds are easily deceived. So these affirmations really help to believe in success and, ultimately, attract it, ”explains the business coach.