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The only way to become a self-sufficient person is to stop waiting, let alone demand something from others, to start living and behaving like an adult and self-sufficient person.
Self-service
First steps: learn how to serve yourself, learn how to earn money and solve all your life problems on your own. Can you handle it? If you don’t whine and you’re okay with intelligence, you can handle it. Yes?
Taking care of yourself
Be sure to take care of your body, its beauty, vitality and health. The sooner you teach yourself a healthy lifestyle, the longer you will remain a self-sufficient person. See details →
Deal with your social circle, with your friends and buddies: now only those who you need should be next to you, only when you need it, and involve only in those things and conversations that you need and are interested in. This is a special art: to have friends without them «having» you. The ability to be both self-sufficient and in demand, attractive to others is not immediately mastered. See →
Ready for loneliness
Many will benefit from the experience of productive loneliness. If you have a fear of loneliness, you need to go through it and understand that there is nothing wrong with it. You just live on your own, minding your own business. Loneliness is like a fasting diet. Everything superfluous and unnecessary is removed in the process of internal study of one’s own programs and restrictions, new skills are developed and changes are consolidated.
Independence of decisions
Get used to making decisions on your own. Don’t go with the flow, it’s foolish to go against the flow, go where you need to go. Listen to everyone’s advice, but do your own thing. Remember that you, not your advisers, ultimately make the decision, and you are responsible for it, not them. See →
Having your own goals: for the day, for the year, for life
Learn to set goals. The one who has his goals, lives his life. Whoever has not defined his goals, still lives by what life and those around him offer him. It’s probably better to live your own life. Learn to set goals! See →
It turns out that self-sufficiency is not mysterious at all. It does not fall from the sky, on the other hand, it is quite accessible: you just need to work on yourself. How to work on yourself, see here.
Prospects for development: what’s next, beyond self-sufficiency?
Gosha lived as a completely self-sufficient person until he met his beloved woman.
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Everything has its time. Self-sufficiency at a certain stage is a sign of growing up, a sign of a qualitative development of a person: “I can stand on my own feet in life”, and this is already good! But self-sufficiency is not at all the height of personal development, do not get stuck on it. Start thinking about others and caring for others. Perhaps you are waiting for the exercise «If I loved.» It is better when a person does not get stuck on self-sufficiency, but learns to give care to people around him. See →
But self-sufficiency is not at all the height of personal development, the ability to take care of oneself is only the beginning. Don’t get stuck on self-sufficiency. Start learning to think about others, take care of others, learn to give care to people around you.
Gosha from the film «Moscow Does Not Believe in Tears» lived as a completely self-sufficient person until he met his beloved woman. After that, he may have lost his self-sufficiency to some extent, but gained love and a new meaning in life. What we wish you. For those who are interested, we recommend the exercise “If I loved”!