Hands-on work at work, unpaid gifts, outfits, unplanned vacations – all this turns December into a race month. There is nothing left until the New Year, and there are still so many things to do. How not to burn out at work, to have time for everything and not to quarrel with anyone, says Anetta Orlova, a psychologist, a permanent expert of the show “Let them talk” on Channel One.
The key to the success of a good holiday is planning. Get together with the whole family and make a tree map of your goals. What it is? A kind of to-do list, in which you have to add everything to the smallest detail: a trip to a beauty salon, for a New Year’s outfit, work tasks, shopping for food, gifts, tickets for the winter holidays, performances. Divide cases into four groups: important and urgent – they cannot be delegated, and success depends on their implementation; important and non-urgent are things that another responsible family member is able to handle; unimportant and urgent matters – they will take a lot of time, but will have little effect, so entrust it to your household; and the last group – unimportant and non-urgent matters – these are the so-called “time eaters”: calls, letters, small purchases. These little things take precious minutes and knock you out of your schedule. In the pre-holiday period, they need to be abandoned, just not done, so as not to waste time. Once you’ve assigned things to the groups, outsource everything you can and cut off the excess. Each family member should be equally busy, only then you will have time for everything.
Before the New Year, people often quarrel over little things. If you feel oppressed by resentment, be sure to say goodbye to them before the holiday. Take a piece of paper and write or draw on it all your grievances and failures. Materialize them and then burn them. This is a fairly simple but really effective trick.
A tense person is always betrayed by his chin and retracted neck. Feel like you’re about to boil? Dissolve your muscle carapace. Sit down, close your eyes, breathe calmly and begin to gradually relax all the muscles of the face – first the forehead, then the eyes, cheekbones, and chin. In an angry, angry person, the jaws are always tightly clenched, like an animal preparing to growl. Open your mouth slightly to loosen the grip. Repeat this exercise twice a day for 5-10 minutes in the morning and in the evening, and you are not in danger of a breakdown.
Pre-holiday chores almost always result in chronic fatigue. Do you want to sour at the table and look like a girl beaten by life? Then make it a rule to arrange a tea ceremony for yourself every day. Buy tea with lemon balm or mint, brew and drink slowly, slowly. Stress is accelerated movement, chaos, and nervous overexcitement; to get rid of it, you need to slow down.
Have you managed to buy everything and redo things, but are still unhappy? Most likely, because they did not find time for themselves. Before planning which table to set and who to give what, think about a surprise for yourself. For example, buy new shoes. Dear, beautiful, that you dreamed of. Japanese sages have always viewed new shoes as a new path. Let it begin with you in the New Year. Be sure to present yourself with the desired item and put it on for the holiday.