How to balance work and personal life

If it seems to us that work and personal life are somehow poorly combined, usually dissatisfaction with the situation in the LV is behind this. But then the reasons for this dissatisfaction can be very different. Typical reasons:

Need to prioritize

Indeed, sometimes in any scenario there is not enough time for joint LV. Solution: either determine that work is more important now — and calm down, or cut back on work. You can cut the work either mechanically or learn to fit it in a shorter time through time management. Another option is to use any of the smallest opportunities to convey your love and attention to your loved ones: SMS, signs of attention.

Partner not helping…

There is not enough time for a joint LV, it seems to you that you can find it, but the partner does not want to look for it. The solution is to figure out why. Maybe it’s temporary (work is more important for the partner now), maybe the partner doesn’t understand that you have enough of him (talk about it clearly — Talking about difficult relationships), or the partner, in principle, doesn’t really care about the relationship with you — in comparison with work. In the latter case, either accept it or look for another partner.

Lots of empty stuff…

There is not enough time for joint LV, because you are constantly doing something else, some kind of garbage. The solution is to figure out what exactly you are doing and draw a picture of life where you are doing what is right for you. For starters, time tracking, where you take into account everything: trips to your mother, and talking on the phone with friends and acquaintances, and washing your hair, and shopping, and arguing with children, and going to the country, and cooking — everything! At the same time, you will find out how much time you basically have (theoretically) relatively free, where your LV can be. Let’s say it’s 32 hours. Then we distribute this time. For example, 8 hours for communication and LV personally with a loved one (husband), where there is no one else. 8 hours — purely for yourself, where there is no one else. 8 hours for household chores. And 8 hours — for household chores and loved ones, where the husband is next to you in the background. If it suits you, it remains only to implement it. You can ask your husband to help you with this.

There is something wrong in life…

This means: in fact, everything is in order, LV and work are normally combined, but in life something is not right and I want to find or come up with a reason. So they came up with this: “Work and LV do not combine.” This is a notion that, perhaps, gives you the right to run away from both work and family now.

I don’t like my personal life…

This happens too. It seems that objectively there is enough time for LV, but LV is of poor quality, there is no joy from such LV, and in order not to look for the guilty, we attribute everything to terrible work.

Solution: adjust the LV at the existing time and stop nodding to work. Family Agreement Questionnaire, Love Languages, Family Constitution, Difficult Relationship Talk — to master and apply. And also to raise the emotional tone: a smile, an internal motor, compliments, thanks, declarations of love!

It is possible to combine work and personal life — it’s normal, easy, natural. Of course, one must take into account the fact that for most modern successful men, under the age of 40, work (successful work) is more important than personal life. Such a man is still in business, he is not yet up to his personal life (if seriously). And for a woman, if everything is in order with her success, her personal life is more important. The self-realization of a man begins with work, with business, the self-realization of a woman begins with personal relationships, with family, with love. But this does not mean that self-realization ends with this.

For business people, family is important. Most adult, smart, strong men are very interested in their personal lives, if only because this is also a space where they can also build their world, their humanity, their family. He can establish his own rules on this territory, build relations the way he wants. And this is attractive for so many men: “This is my woman, my children, my world!” And he will treat this as sincerely, as reverently, as he does with work. But this is if the wife understands that work for him is, if not the most important, then one of the most important. If she treats his affairs with respect, then she will become the dearest woman for him. If she screams, makes noise on the topic: “You don’t take care of the family, you only care about work, you don’t think about children at all!”, Then it’s quite possible that he will look for a more understanding woman somewhere.

When a man has put things in order at work (and this is absolutely real), and can afford to reach a level where most processes are going in a reasonable way, he has time for his family, children, and his health. Moreover, if you put things in order at work, it is easier for you to put things in order in the family, since the rules here are the same. What you learn at work as a leader will help you in your family. What you have learned in the family as the head of the family will help you at work, in relationships with employees.

There is a view that at work — we work, and the house is a place where you can relax and unwind. So sometimes a man can afford to think, but a woman cannot afford to think like that .. The house is the most important work of a woman. If you want, she can take a rest during the day at work, and come home as her main job. Because this is the place where a woman should be as attentive, responsible, caring as possible, and everything else. Here a woman is obliged to take care of herself, of her good mood … The main work of a woman? — to be the sun, first of all, to be joy; and this work should be a favorite job for a woman, and not something burdensome: to please everyone, to inspire her husband, to be a beloved mother for children.