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How useful or dangerous for a woman’s health can be a long absence of sex? Is it good when, on the contrary, there is too much of it? And how to “turn on” sexual energy? Let’s find out what Eastern medicine says about this.
Abstinence, like any other bodily action (or inaction), has its pros and cons. What is good about giving up sex from the point of view of oriental medicine?
Giving up for development
In Eastern traditions, there are qigong practices in which it is recommended not to have sex. For example, people who practice meditation should not be distracted from their pursuit by sexual activity if they want to develop diligently in the spiritual direction. This applies to both women and men.
There are also qi energy cultivation practices: they are aimed at accumulating it, controlling its movement inside the body. For such practices, it is important that the qi energy remains stable, and sex is a very powerful, exciting process, and in such situations it can also be harmful.
Physiological Consequences
Let’s say you are not engaged in either direction of practice, but for some other reason you live without sex. Perhaps for months or even years. How will this affect your health? The question is legitimate. Answer: there is a possibility of an earlier menopause.
Statistics show that the reproductive function of women who deliberately abstain from sex subsides earlier than those who are sexually active. Roughly speaking, what we do not use is “turned off”. Ovarian activity gradually subsides, and menopause occurs earlier.
Too much is bad too
Oddly enough, events unfold in exactly the same way if a woman has sex too much, excessively. There is a very wise idea in the Taoist tradition: the same thing that stimulates our organs and systems, when overabundant, can oppress them.
For example, according to Taoist treatises, walking tones the function of the liver. But if a person goes to insanity a lot, then the liver begins to suffer. This, in turn, manifests itself in the emotional background of his life.
The liver is associated with the emotion of anger. Therefore, in such “pedestrian” cities as, for example, New York, people seem to behave in a friendly way – but as a result of fatigue, they can suddenly break down, show anger for no reason at all. Walking overstimulates (and therefore worsens) the state of the liver, and this manifests itself in the “emotion of the liver” – anger.
With regard to sexual activity, it should be remembered: sex stimulates the ovaries. If there is too much sex, then their function also gradually fades away.
The golden mean in our bed
What is “little”, “a lot”, or “just right” sexual activity – no one, of course, for all of humanity will decide this. There are no rules, and there cannot be. In different periods of time, we want sex with different intensity.
At the beginning of falling in love, even once a day is not enough: you want to be closer, even closer, and preferably more often. Whereas a person who has been married for a long time and actively works all week, enjoys intimacy only on weekends (or even not on every weekend), and this is quite enough for him.
Therefore, I propose not to consider some ephemeral “norms”, but to pay attention to sexuality as a way of life. It is the openness to these sensations, the “sexual view of the world” – this is the mood that feeds our energy supply and overall health. Is it present in your life? And if not, how to start it?
How to discover the source of sexual energy in yourself
We are all turned on by different events, people, activities. But there are basic points that help to add a look of fire, and a vision of the world – sexuality, which means bright colors.
- Sleep. It is necessary to get enough sleep and make up for the lack of strength so that they are enough for sexual experiences.
- Mode. As the saying goes, “When you leave work, leave work.” This, by the way, in the modern world has to be studied separately. And this is the most important skill: to leave work issues at work, and at home – to be a tender wife, a passionate lover, or just a woman.
- Practices that cultivate relaxation. In the modern rhythm, we are so overstrained that rest is perceived as a danger: now I’ll relax, and then I won’t get together in life. But flirting, enjoying intimacy, pleasurable bodily contacts are available to us only in a relaxed state.
Therefore, the basis of, for example, female Taoist practices that cultivate sexuality is the development of this skill: special breathing, which relaxes the pelvic area, and exercises with jade eggs, which relax the intimate muscles, revitalize them, and make them more sensitive.