Today we will talk about cases when we harm ourselves, or other people harm us, do not do it with exceptionally good, kind words, which, it would seem, should bring only positive. Yes, we really should be determined to succeed, but there is one slippery point that needs to be taken into account.
Not everything in this life depends on us personally. There are a lot of circumstances around that can turn any of our plans upside down, so one hundred percent self-confidence often goes sideways. What does it mean? Now let’s talk in more detail.
How encouragement makes us feel worse
Each of us had such that a friend or acquaintance is trying to assure that “everything will definitely be super” or “you will succeed, it cannot be otherwise.” It may be different, because our world is a very interesting and unpredictable thing. Scientists at an American university conducted a study according to which the test results of people who experienced slight jitters before the exam, and people who were one hundred percent sure of themselves, were to be measured. Guess what the outcome was. Naturally, students who felt excited did much better on the test. This is because jitters are potential energy, a slight excitement activates all the processes in our body and brings it into combat readiness mode. Complete self-confidence (and this is not about confidence in the good sense of the word), one in which a person believes that he knows absolutely everything, can perform any action, solves even the most difficult task for one or two — only destroys. We physically cannot be ready for all the millions and billions of possible scenarios, so do not be arrogant.
Evil spirits and unfulfilled desires
It so happens that when we already see our goal as achieved or too early to convince ourselves of what we really don’t have yet, this does not come into our hands. In ancient times, people believed that evil spirits eavesdrop on our conversations, and if a person behaves too arrogantly, they destroy our plans. Let me tell you one case where this happened. For two months, one girl kept telling everyone how she would go on vacation to the Maldives, how great it would be, that she was looking forward to this trip more than anything else. A week before her departure, none of her acquaintances could talk to her anymore, because she kept repeating only about her departure. The long-awaited day has come, the girl was in a hurry to get on the bus (in some cities, bus stations are combined with railway stations), the stop was behind the railway tracks. She did not pay attention to the approaching train, because she was occupied with her own thoughts, and fell under it.
Conclusion
The less we talk about our affairs, the better they go with us. Remember this and try not to talk about the sacred moments of your life unnecessarily. Don’t take what isn’t yours yet. Try not to neglect these rules and your life will become much better.