How does female sexuality change with age?

I often hear women voice this prejudice idea out loud: “The older I get, the less I need sex.” Moreover, this most “older” for some can come even at 30 years old.

Sexual attraction really undergoes changes with age: the hormonal background changes, new social roles and physiological characteristics appear. But all this is purely individual, and most importantly, we can change the situation at any time.

Yes, over the years, the perception of sex changes, but at any age you can live in pleasure and with vivid orgasms. Our sexuality «grows up» with us. How does this happen?

20 years old: free swimming

This is a period of sexual experimentation and dreams of princes. It is generally accepted that this is the time of sexual enthusiasm. But in fact, it is during these years that a woman is most concerned about her appearance, which is somewhat confusing. She wonders: how sexy is she? How does her partner feel about her appearance?

Also, this period is characterized by female “compliance”: when a girl agrees to have sex because her partner wants it, or compromises with her health and allows unprotected contacts. Hence the fears of an unplanned pregnancy or sexually transmitted diseases.

At the same time, anxiety, as you know, does not contribute to sexual desire. In addition, at the age of 20, girls are actively looking for themselves in their careers and studies, and these searches, for obvious reasons, shift their focus away from sex.

Another feature of this period is the rejection of one’s sexuality. Settings from childhood, the fear of turning from a “good” girl into a “bad” one negatively affects libido.

Also, twenties do not have enough sexual experience, they do not fully understand their physiology and body signals. Orgasms come by chance, and this is a great incentive to go deep, try new things, get to know yourself better.

30 years old: motherhood

As a rule, by the age of thirty we “acquire” new social roles, we begin to perform the functions of mother and wife. This age is the peak of our sexuality: a woman feels comfortable in a stable relationship, it is easier for her to open up to a partner, it is easier for her to get an orgasm. Her complexes and fears leave her.

A sense of security allows you to maximize your sexuality. In addition, by the age of 30, a woman understands her body better. She knows what kind of stimulation she likes, what excites her, what context to create in order to be guaranteed to relax and enjoy sex.

True, libido can somewhat undermine motherhood. Together with the birth of a child, a woman may experience intimate problems: prolapse of organs, urinary incontinence, diastasis, fatigue, and difficulties with body image perception. Self-doubt appears, which is reflected in the sexual life.

The hormonal background of a young mother also opposes vivid orgasms: immediately after the birth of a child, the testosterone level drops, the number of sexual contacts with a partner can decrease to one or two times a month or less. Sex is accompanied by typical unpleasant sensations — dryness, pain, a feeling of a «wide» vagina.

Stress consumes a young mother, she is forced to think about several things at the same time: about the well-being and health of the child, about everyday issues. There is simply no energy left for sex.

Breastfeeding also affects hormones and suppresses libido. But a woman can cope with all these consequences of motherhood on her own with the help of a competent distribution of time between household chores and leisure. Of course, the partner also plays an important role: without his participation, care and interest, a young mother is unlikely to be able to find time for herself.

Breathing practices and intimate gymnastics have a positive effect on a woman’s libido and health in the postpartum period. They increase energy levels and allow the body to recover after childbirth.

40 years old: mature sexuality

Despite the fact that the hormonal background is changing, the sexual desire of many women only grows during this period. The level of stress decreases, the children grow up, there is more free time for themselves.

Financial stability and a career create a sense of security: this is an excellent ground for discovering our desires. Many women at this age literally blossom. They have enough energy and courage to make their dreams come true, they know what excites them.

At the same time, it is this period that can be characterized by cooling in relations with a permanent partner. Boredom appears in bed, a feeling of triviality. That is why it is so important to start getting to know each other again. It just seems that you know your loved one to the smallest cracks.

In fact, your partner is a big book that can be studied endlessly. Do not be afraid to open up to each other, to share the innermost — that most fertile time has come when nothing will interfere with you.

From 50 years old: a new life

Not all women meet this time with enthusiasm, although it is, in my opinion, the most «delicious» and the wisest. In my opinion, menopause is a new beginning. In the ancient Indian tribes, he was greeted with a huge holiday, and the woman was called a wise mother, to whom they came for advice.

Yes, menopause can take a toll on our libido. Sexual desire decreases, dryness appears in the vagina, the woman feels tired, hot flashes also negatively affect the physical condition of the woman. But menopause is not a contraindication to pleasure.

I am one hundred percent sure: sex can be great at any age. Your ability to have orgasms has nothing to do with the numbers on your passport. The main thing is the desire to develop in sex and the courage not to limit yourself to age limits.

In fact, menopause is a time when you can and should have sex. There is no fear of getting pregnant, no more periods, PMS, you can be liberated, relaxed, sexually active. Sex for a woman after fifty is not just the satisfaction of a physical need, but a real act of love.

During this period, foreplay is especially important: estrogen levels drop, and the body needs time to prepare. This is exactly the age when quantity finally turns into quality.

It doesn’t matter how old you are: what matters is how you feel in your body, what matters is the life that is inside you right now.

Enjoy every day of your life at any age. Enjoy sex, love your body, listen to your desires. Get rid of complexes, fears, intimate problems and dance through this life!